About a month my wife catches my daughter having a secret online life, trading pictures with boys and all that. When my wife walked in on her slammed the computer shut but didn't have a chance to close anything. Knowing that she got caught she runs away. We look for her can't find her have to call the cops. They find her because someone called the cops because she knocked on their door in the middle of the night to ask to use the bathroom. No shoes, no jacket 27F outside. So they bring her back and we sit down and talk about what happened, she understands she just ran because she panicked. Next few days are kinda rough but things get a little better. Then she starts taking about being depressed and she's been having suicidal thoughts, she feels worthless because her birth family didn't keep her. (We adopted her and her little brother from foster care 3 years ago.) But she never says she hates us or doesn't want to live with us just that she wants to get better. We notice that she's writing more about suicide and we talk to her about it and my wife takes her to place to evaluate her and they want to put her in a short term in-patient hospital. So we ask her if she's ok with that and we bring her.The next day we go for a visit and she's sad to be there but sees how good she has it compared to the other kids and she just wants to come home. We felt the same but also felt that we should listen to the doctors there and do what they recommend. The rest of the visits were fine she wants to come home and ready to do everything she needs to do. Also during this time they put her on 20mg of lexapro for her minor depression. The last visit she was very different, talking wierd and nothing seemed genuine. Take her home the next day and my wife can tell that something isn't right. We do everything that she wanted to do and this and that, she made a comment about all of earth being trash and why should we have to pick up after ourselfs. This upset my wife, she tried not to say anything but my daughter later asked if she was mad at her to which my wife said yes and why and the rest of the night is me trying to play ref and fix it, which by the end of the night it was for the most part. Next day they do a bunch of stuff have a great day, then they're on the way back from somewhere and my daughter says, a whole bowl full of pills sounds real good right now. My wife left it alone, we talked about it for about 3 hours that night and decided not to address it until the morning. My wife goes to address it and she immediately starts threatening to kill herself. Take her to the ER and the consular there asks her some questions and pretty much thinks she's just doing it for attention. Nothing more we can do so they take her to another in-patient hospital.She gets there on a Friday and by Monday the doctors sees her, says she not suicidal she just says she doesn't want to live with you anymore, mind you she still claims she loves us and doesn't have anything bad to say. I pick her up yesterday and she's breaking her neck not to look at me the whole ride home, I'm just pissed the whole drive knowing that it's going to be bullshit as soon as we get home. She gets home, and is talking with my wife nicely and says a consular told her all she has to do is talk to a therapist and cps and she could get transferred to another home. Which isn't really possible as she is legally our daughter and no judge is going to terminate our rights just because she wants to go somewhere else. My wife called her old caseworker and the caseworker told her what she didn't want to hear and she ran off. Called the cops to report the runaway and she ends up walking 10 miles to the first hospital she went to. My wife had to go and they had a bed so they took her in. The only thing we hope is that the medicine was causing her to have manic episodes and maybe if she stops taking it she'll come to her senses, at this point who knows. I honestly think that the reason she doesn't want to be home is because she can't deal with the fact that she has to deal with the consequences of her actions. We haven't had her home long enough to even try to make a plan to where she could earn some of her stuff back. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pM9D9n
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