Child with cancer and coping with alcohol

Burner account.My third child was born on the first of March via unplanned c section (two weeks early). Within 6 hours, they were diagnosed with lukemia and sent off to the regions best pediatric oncology center. So far everything is going “as planned” and they are responding to treatment very well.I understand everything that is going on and am dealing with it as best as I can. It has been long enough where things are starting to “normalize”. I go to the hospital on certain days, my wife on others, things are becoming organized and we are handling everything in stride.I am finding that my inability to deal with the general anxiety of our situation is leading me to drink more than I typically do. It is still restrained to the weekends, and does not interfere with my work week, but I don’t necessarily like that I am drinking to get some “peace”. I feel like this is leading down a road to alcohol abuse, but quite frankly i am pretty ignorant on the subject.Any opinions/thoughts would be helpful.If someone knows a better subreddit for this, please let me know (or repost it there for me, I’m clearly not caring about karma here).Thanks everyone! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2uDtw4z

First day

I feel like I’m kind of getting the hang of this. My LO is a week old. FTM.My baby had jaundice that kept getting worse. On top of a terrible delivery experience. Yesterday was the first day his bilirubin was lowering and we were able to relax a bit. He was poked everyday this week. Today was the first day we didn’t have lab draws or doctor appointments. My husband and I were able to enjoy a day with our little guy for the first time. He’s going back to work this week and I’ll be alone with the baby (thankful for maternity leave and saving up). I know this isn’t gonna be easy but I’m feeling more secure in my mom ability. Sorry I’m all over the place, just needed to get this out there to people who understand. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2uzHxAd

My 1st grader has been writing about how he wants a mom. How concerned should I be?

My son is 6 and in first grade. They do free writing during the day and one of the main topics my son focuses on is wanting a mom.The teacher emailed me after they made stories. The goal was to write a page every day and have them connected to each other. The prompt was "If you could have one wish, what would that wish be?" My son wrote about how he would wish for a mom.It's just me and my son and has been since he was a year old. His mother left and my son knows that. We have talked about why she isn't around anymore but I haven't gone into specific details because I don't know them. We weren't together when she left. She pretty much dropped my son off at his grandmother's house and never came back. I know that she is still alive and tried to get in contact with her when my son was around 3, but she told me to never speak to her again and I haven't since. It's hard to answer my son's questions when I don't know the answers myself.His teacher wants him to meet with the school counselor twice a week. I am okay with this but should I be looking deeper? Into therapy outside of school? He is a great kid but probably has some attachment and abandonment issues. He still sleeps in my bed at night and doesn't like for me to leave him overnight, so we haven't spend a night apart since his mom left. I have just accommodated those because I didn't think they were a big deal but with how much he has been writing about his mom, I feel like shit. Like I missed all the signs that he isn't okay. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2I4c80t

The nerves on that girl, im kinda proud.

I'm 27w pregnant and jump scare really easily. As a precaution, we made a "no jump scare" rule just for the pregnancy.Just as I'm entering my 5yo room, I see her under the bed. I remind her of the rule, that it can be dangerous for the baby. I already told her like 5 times today but, you know, she just a child. Forgetting rules is in her job description :pAnyway, I go to the bathroom, come back and.... She's hiding. I get a little mad and says if she can't respect the security of the baby, I won't respect her bedtime story time.I close her door, she's mad, toss and turn in her bed to letting us know she is, then she start fake-crying.. the whole thing.Eventually, she start SCREAMING that it's not fair. That's were the hormones kicks in and burst in her room and I tell her that she knows it's dangerous to scare me, that I told her just a minute before that it was and she still hid. I think is was only fair that her bedtime story privileged was revoked for the night. I slam the door and go calm down in my room.I don't usually scream but I'm only human and sometimes it happens. When it does, I wait till everyone calms down and go back to her to explain calmly my point while saying that nothing can justify screaming and it was not ok for me to do it. I need her to know she is worth more than that, you know...Well... 10-15 minutes goes by, I'm still pretty pissed and there's no sound coming from her bedroom so I guess she's sleeping. As I'm deciding to just talk with her in the morning, she comes in my room, kindly saying something along the lines of " I'm sorry but I think you should now apologize for screaming"I was FUMING. The nerves on the little girl!!! I just told her to go back to her room. Now that I've cried my anger out....IM JUST SO PROUD TO SEE THAT SHE KNOWS WHAT KIND OF TREATMENT SHE DESERVE AND THAT SHE IS NOT AFFRAID TO ASK THE RESPECT SHE IS WORTH! :)TL;dr: Taught my 5yo to stand up for what she deserves, it came running back at me when I punished her for trying to jump scare me while pregnant. Bitter sweet proudness right here. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TNQ5xk

Life Lessons with Charlotte’s Web

My 5 yo daughter and I have started a routine where we go to the library and pick out a chapter book that I can read to her. We are currently reading Charlotte’s Web. This was one of my favorites as a child I think because I grew up on a farm and always liked the idea of the animals talking to each other. Anyway we are about 5 chapters into this book. We finished the part where Charlotte catches the fly and explains that is how she eats and if spiders didn’t eat bugs that bugs would take over the world and most likely cause ruin. We have a small discussion about how spiders are actually good and not always scary they just like to surprise us in unexpected places. Literally the next paragraph says something along the lines of “Poor Wilbur. He has no idea what will happen at Christmas time. He doesn’t know that Mr. Zuckerman and Lurvy are plotting to kill him” my daughter lets out this huge gasp and yells “they’re gonna kill him?!!” Now keep in mind our family hunts and fishes and she has seen us clean a few deer. She knows where bacon and hamburgers come from. The concept of meat being dead animals isn’t new to her. I think in this case since Wilbur has been humanized and she has developed a reader relationship with him that it effected her this way. We did have another discussion on meat coming from animals. I also suggested that we should keep reading the story because that may not be what happens to Wilbur. It was really hard to not giggle a little bit while finishing this chapter. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2U9scpc

Child with mental illness and guilt

I don't even know what I want out of this post...maybe just to scream into the darkness?Last night, my 9-year-old--who deals with anxiety, and some significant oppositional behavior--had a major meltdown that ended up with her outside at night, refusing to come into the house, and hiding in the bushes like a feral cat. To make a very long story short, we ended up calling out local PD to help, and after a several-hour stand-off (the term is completely applicable here) we eventually had to call an ambulance so we could take her to a hospital for a psych eval.Now, I've fought with her before. We've gotten into shouting matches. I've locked myself away from her to avoid physical assault, I've taken privileges away, and in the heat of the moment, I've said things I wish I could take back. But none of that...none of it...compares to how fucking horrible I felt having to physically carry her, literally kicking and screaming, into an ambulance and help the EMTs strap her onto a stretcher.I have been telling myself since last night that there was nothing else to be done. It was either me or a stranger, and today, I know she is better for having gone. But the look in her eyes when she went from fury to fear, from opposition to confusion... I don't even know how to characterize it. Betrayal? Profound loss? A completely undefinable feeling when you feel trapped and frightened, and the person who put you there is your own father?I feel like last night was a long time coming, and was probably inevitable to some extent. But if there were ever a memory I could completely excise from my mind, it's this one. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2U7BWQI

When does it get good?

My LO is three and tbh, it’s been 3 years of misery. Loss of freedom, loss of sleep, ugly whining noises, fighting every step of every single day from eating to brushing teeth to getting dressed and so on. I figure there are billions of people on earth and people go on to have 2,3,4 kids and so I figure there must be something good about it so when does it happen?? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TNI4se

Single mom basically raising my niece and resenting the parents.

I am a single mother of a 12 year old. I recently moved in with my dad to help him as he’s going through a divorce and he’s up in age (71) so managing a household is not is thing at all. Let me explain the situation with my niece. My brother has 2 kids, boy 13 and girl 11. He always favored John over Jane. Me and my mom started to get her as a kid which forced my brother to be around her. Over the last 2 years I found out my niece was basically living w one of her classmates bc mom changed her work shift and could no longer take Jane to school. Brother also can’t take her bc he has to be to work at 6a. I found out bc she was coming to my house every weekend and of course I ask a lot of questions. Also learned she had no bed to sleep in, so she was sleeping on couch, inflatable bed, floor or with the grandmom. Told brother and he said he’ll keep her during the week which really meant I would keep her. It was never a consistent thing. He was supposed to pick up her from school everyday but he wasn’t. He would tell mom to get her which in turn makes mom say, you know what I’ll keep her but moms “I’ll keep her” means Jane will go back to staying w classmate and her family.Ok, let me find a way to get to the point. I would rather her stay with me but parents don’t want to relinquish rights nor do they help me when she’s with me. She’s been with me for about 2-3 weeks now. Mom was paying the classmates family but she gives me nothing! Doesn’t ask me how she’s doing, if she needs anything NOTHING. She does call Jane but she should be asking me how things are. I am basically her mother. Feed her dinner, take her to school, homework, hair, laundry, lunch, shower, bedtime, advice, love. Dad will pick her up for school a few times a week and bring her right to me around 6.So they both want to be her parents in name and authority but they literally do nothing. I really resent them both and don’t know how to continue being there for my niece while having to interact with them. They’re both deadbeats. Oh and my brother pays her Childsupport.TLDR: I take care of my brothers daughter. Both parents are able-bodied but they do nothing. I resent them and don’t know how to manage my resentment. I want to keep her with me and parents to provide more support emotionally and financially but I don’t know how to approach it with them w/o them pulling her away from me. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2YEMHZp

Love child from a previous relationship, how do I act further?

So we splitted before the kid was born. Now the mother is questioning me whether I would like to be in contact with the kid early in its infancy. Basically trying to seal a "from now on or never" deal with me, to not "traumatize the kid later" if I suddenly decide to get to know the kid at a later stage in our lives. I could not handle the mother, but I wish nothing but the best to the kid, as to all other human beings, may be a tad more. But I do not know what would be a better course of action here: eradicate myself from kid's life completely, leaving a void, allowing the mother to bend the story, or do skype-parenting playing a mentor? we are in different countries, physical contact won't happen.​This all is next-level stuff for me, please pour in your thoughts gently. Thanks.​ via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WvFRU0

Failing mom

Hello, all. I’m a mother to my two year old son and lately I’ve been overcome with the feeling like I am failing as his mom. It started when he was diagnosed with a speech delay in December of 2018 and he began speech therapy in late February this year. I feel like I’m not benefiting him. At all. I’m constantly drowning in school work (I am a SAHM). So it seems like all day he is just playing alone with his toys and his speech hasn’t improved at all. Before, he would say “mama” all day long and now I can’t get it out of him. At this point it’s getting harder and harder to get out of bed in the morning. I’m scared that I’m losing my will to take the time to help my son learn the language out of my own selfishness. I love my son so much but I hate that he’s not talking. I really hate that he can’t tell me what he needs. Every time I sit down to try floor time with him and he brings me toys to play with and I try to talk non stop and engage him in mimicking me but it won’t work. I feel so frustrated with myself for not having the patience with my son. It feels like I wasn’t meant to be a mom at all. Are there any other parents that feel/felt this way? How did you get past this? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2JVKSEf

Grrr Parenthood Advice

My partner and I have a 14 mo old. Due to many reasons, he doesn’t really help with any care of our son other than maybe an hour here or there, once or twice a week. We live together.I was forced to leave my job due to my son being sick all the time from daycare and he was falling behind in development.Struggling with PPD, daily migraines and a very difficult boy who whines/cries and demands attention 24/7.What time he heck can has anyone else done to help the transition to parenthood? We have no friends/family nearby to help and the stressors of everything are pushing me over the edge. Help! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2U7KcAm

I need some help with "parenting"

So as the title says I need some help.Because my father died some years ago and mom can't take care of my brother M[18], I M[22] must take care of his education in school, in a few months he is having a big exam at the end of highschool, I think outside my country is named "maturity exam". If he can pass it, he can go to college. I don't know how to make him understand how important is this exam. He lies to me constantly without any shame about studying and school(he intentionally misses some classes). Here is what I tried:-talking calmly with him about the importance of this exam-explaining to him that is not that hard to start studying(he studied very little in his life)-trying to motivate him with some things from the book Mini Habits-tried to keep a friendly relationship with him so he can see me as a brother that can talk too but I think he feares me because I m trying to make him study- making a study program, 3 hours daily after school(his ideea), but he didn't follow it-checking him a few days a week via phoneI m far from home and can't check if he is studying so recently I told him that I want him to say to me what did he studied alone for the exam but I bet he "forgot" it. One night when I was home, I think we had a brothers moment and I asked him nicely what is happening to him, he told me that he just can't study, don't know for sure if he is procrastinating or he doesn't want to, or both, or something else.I need some advice on how to help him, I know that I m putting a little pressure on him, I tried leaving him alone for 2 week to see what is doing, 6/7 days every evening goes to a pub. I think this is important: I m in college, final year and my family sometimes compares him to me, look where (me) is, you can be like him and something similar.Thank you for your time! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2V9Q7kz

I dont trust my stepson around my 8 month old baby

So my boyfriend and I have an 8 month old son together, he also has a 6 year old son from a previous relationship, and I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship.My issue I have is that I don't trust my stepson around my 8 month old baby. I'm about 99% sure that he has ADHD, but he has never been formally diagnosed. I think he has ADHD because I have been around many kids who have ADHD, and he falls into almost every single symptom. I'm worried for my son's safety because my step son does not listen when I tell him not to do something. For example:he jumps all around the baby in the baby's play area and has come extremely close to falling directly onto his head. He has stepped on him and knocked him over many times.he tries to give my baby small objects constantly, and even tries to out things into my babies mouthhe is extremely loud around the baby and the baby gets scared all the timehe is rough with the baby's toys, always pushing them into him to push the baby over, or hitting him with themhe is also violent, always punching the baby's toys, or making them fight.Now my boyfriend and I are on rocky terms right now because of many issues, to which my boyfriend said he doesn't want to hear me complaining about anymore, so I stopped. BUT this one I just can't let go of. I can't stop worrying about leaving my baby with him, and my stepson. He doesn't discipline him at all, and he also doesn't remove him from the area, he removes the baby from the babies play area. He also has claimed that I am "mean" and "targeting" "his son" whenever I say anything about his behavior. His behavior is also bad with the other kids in the house, and he is a bully at school.It has become so stressful for me when he is around because I can't even leave my baby to play with his toys and fix him lunch, or tidy up a few things without worrying about him being violent.Also I know some people will say this is how 6 year olds are blah blah, but I have a 6 year old daughter, and my 6 year old neice also lives with me, and neither one of them are like this around the baby. My daughter actually saved my baby from eating a piece of Lego that my stepson was trying to feed to the baby.I don't know how to approach my boyfriend about the safety of our baby without completely insulting his parenting. I don't want my boyfriend to feel like I don't want "his son" around the baby, I just want him to step up as a dad, and enforce the rules with my stepson instead of immediately turning on me like I'm just targeting him.Am I being irrational? How should I approach him about this? Thanks anyone who offers advice. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2I3gll6

Happy Mother’s Day!

Happy Mother’s Day to all of you wonderful mommas! Whether it’s Mother’s Day where you live or not. Whether you’re momma to a tribe, growing your first of many (or just the one) if you’re grieving what should of been, missing an angel baby. If you’re in the midst of postpartum recovery, morning sickness, third trimester troubles, terrible twos, tween or teen hood or if your children are already grown up. You’re all doing amazing, take a moment right now to pat yourself on the back! Love to you all 💕 via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2YASq2h

Parents friendship falling apart, trying to save the kids friendship

For the first seven years of my son's life we've had a very close friendship with another mom and her boy of the same age. The kids have known each other since they were a year old and I quickly became close with the mom as we just clicked. We arranged playdates or outings for the boys and our families almost every weekend, hang out while the boys played, and would go on mom dates without kids almost monthly. We were practically like family and shared all aspects of our lives. I would say on average we/ the kids would see each other at least 2-3 times per month.The kids never went to school together nor were we neighbors, so this was always a friendship that we had to make the effort and make time to see each other. Even as the kids grew older and started developing different interests, we still kept it up. Until last year things changed. My friend moved houses and had stress at work and kept bringing those stressors in her life up as excuses for not hanging out. I didn't push the issue too hard, because she can be pretty introvert and assumed that she'd rather deal with the problems by herself. That's not exactly my perspective on friendship, but to each their own. I kept trying to reach out occasionally, when she said she didn't have time because of so and so, I offered my help, but she never accepted. I saw her maybe 3 times last year, she never initiated any contact and the kids playdates were only monthly now and just a quick drop-off.It took me a whole year of such disappointment and rejection to understand that she was no longer interested in the friendship in the same way, and I was grieving over the loss for a long time. At this point I have accepted that our mom-friendship is over, and I'm trying to figure out what's happening with the kids friendship now. Even though she said a few months ago that she still wants the kids to continue seeing each other, it has become a similarly one-sided effort. I don't remember the last time she initiated a playdate. My son is lucky now to see his friend maybe once a month and that's after me asking multiple times and offering to pick him up. The kids have a great time together when they see each other and her son usually asks for the next playdate right away, so I'm not sure if it's the boy pulling away or his mom not wanting to put effort into it anymore.After dealing with rejection for a whole year I am getting very emotionally tired of this whole situation and almost want to have clarity and ask her if she really wants to keep the boys friendship up, or if they want to pull away completely. At this age, if they don't get to see each other regularly, a friendship pretty much doesn't exist. I would hate for my son to go through the same prolonged heartbreak that I have been going through as I can already see him hurting the same way. He still asks for a playdate weekly, gets his hopes up, only to be rejected most of the times. I've already reduced my outreach to once a month, and it's still hard to get them to commit.I'll do anything for my kids and I know that he will have to learn to get through heartbreak sooner or later in life. I just wish it wasn't this early in life and am not sure if a clean and immediate cut would be better than this long and drawn out process. What do you think? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Oyn2wI

Need advice dealing with f'in four and/or jealousy - struggling with punishing, teaching values

Hello parents!I feel like I need some help.My 4 y.o. has always been very energetic. Overall, he's a good kid. He's very loving, and demonstrates empathy when someone is hurt or sad. I'd say he's probably your normal / average 4 years old kid.He's also a charmer, a class clown, and a master manipulator.Ever since he's turned four, he's been a lot more difficult with us. He challenges everything, tests the limits, tries to impose his will, screams at us when we refuse to give in to his ways, etc. Having read about the "f'in four" period, I know this is normal, and to some extent we are able to get through to him by talking to him. It's not always easy, but that's not the part I feel is problematic.The issue that we're struggling with is that he is absolutely out of control when anyone else is present. Whether it's his friends or family members, he immediately disregards all the rules and completely goes rogue. He's bossy, arrogant, he lies, he throws tantrums, he hits us, he won't listen to anything and we simply cannot get him to behave ever.It feels like a serious issue because his behaviour has caused other kids his age to be uncomfortable around him. His cousin - 1 year older, whom we know our son truly loves - no longer wants to see him, because he doesn't feel that our son can share and play constructively with him. Moreover, he feels that our son always purposely gets him in trouble and throws him under the bus every chance he gets.And I know that to be true.We tried many things, mainly along those two lines:We tried talking to him calmly and conveying that his behaviour hurts the people that he loves. It felt like it resonated with him at the time, but that didn't last a minute when the next visitor came over. We tried reading books about sharing, friendships, etc. and it has no effect whatsoever. We also designed and implemented family rules, involving him in the process, and he forgets all about then whenever he's excited.We tried punishment - he was recently without TV and dessert (his two greatest loves) for more than a week, but generally speaking punishing him is ineffective. (We experimented with different punishments.)I should say - and this is probably very relevant to the situation - that he has a 1 year old baby sister who obviously takes up a lot of our time and attention. We are very mindful however of being equitable and not neglecting him when taking care of his sister. We are also very mindful of not changing his routine as much as possible and giving him extensive 1:1 time.At this point I don't know what else I can try. I don't even know where to begin.Does anyone have any experience with a similar situation? Can anyone point me to any relevant resources on the topic?Thank you! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2CIMafC

Very close mom friend solves all of her kid's problems, starting to impact my kid

A very dear friend of mine and her husband had their first child, a girl, at the same time as my husband and I had ours. They're our best family friends, we've been close with them for at least 10 years. Both girls are almost 3. Their daughter has always been super "spirited" and demanding, while ours is pretty easygoing.Whenever their daughter has a meltdown over something like, say, my daughter holding her favourite toy, my friend basically rushes in and fixes the issue. So, like, my daughter sitting in the seat hers wants? Mine is asked to move. My daughter holding Elsa? Can she have her doll back, please? And my daughter just rolls with it, no big deal. But it's not super fair, is it?I have seen many times how their daughter escalates from mildly indignant to full on can't-breathe tantrum, so I absolutely understand what they're trying to avoid here, but they're not doing her any favours, or my kid, either!I mean, when this kid doesn't get her way, she will literally tantrum hard enough to puke for THE REST OF THE NIGHT.I know my friend has some guilt issues over working a lot and not being around as much as she would like, which I'm sure plays into what's going on here. Her husband engages in the same kinds of behaviour, to a lesser extent.I do not want to "mom-judge" my friends. They're loving parents, doing the best they can with a very difficult child, but short of teaching my child to stand up for herself better, I don't know what to do. I think I have a good enough relationship with these friends that I could possibly broach the issue, but what to say? I have no solution to offer!I just feel like as our girls evolve in their friendship, this dynamic is going to get more and more toxic, and it could end up hurting the relationship we have with our friends.Does anybody have any ideas that might help? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TNPQ5w

April Fool's Day is upon us - What's your best prank given to or received by your kids?

Drawing a blank this year and need some inspiration for one of our houses favorite traditions. Two years ago we put colored bulbs in all the lights and told the kids it was always that way. Year before I had my son rush through his morning routine despite it being Sunday and drove him to school. We went for doughnuts after since ruining a Sunday morning was pretty shitty.So far my son's been making me proud with his pranks. Last year he filled up an Amazon box with dirt with a note saying "April Fool's!" and convinced me it was a present he and my wife got me. My daughter basically copies what he does in far worse way but the kid's 5 and I appreciate the effort.Inspire away! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FJaq1Z

Just saw an IG acct for my dad's friend that concerns me

MY DAUGHTER'S FRIENDHi- I was just checking in on IG and had a recommended account. Looked at the bio- and I'm pretty sure it was my dd's best friend, a gay 16 yo guy, whose mom is a friend of mine. I love that boy and his whole family.The bio said "loves big cock😍" - among other things- and it concerns me very much! It's dangerous!His mom knows he's gay, but she told me he has tried to meet a person IRL that he first met online, and it worried her. So I texted her & asked her to call me. I dread telling her about it. I hate feeling like I am butting in, but I would TOTALLY want to know if my dd had a profile like that.Really just venting. Any support welcome. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HPjmGq

We’ve allowed our five year old to develop unhealthy eating habits; how do we get him back on track?

My son has developed some really bad eating habits. He refuses to eat most things and will only do so if he knows he’s getting a dessert at the end. I know it’s normal for kids to dislike veggies and new foods, but every meal is a chore and an unpleasant experience because of his whining, demands for a treat, and general negativity in regards to the meal.Here’s an example of his daily meals, which are often the exact same every day:Breakfast: Fruity Cheerios with half a banana (he’ll often refuse to finish the banana because he’s full). Offer him something else to eat? He won’t eat it and I can’t be late for work because he’s not eating.School Lunch/Snack: plain ham and cheese sandwich (he’ll eat about 1/2 of it); GoGurt; Cheetos; blackberries; fruit snacks; apple sauceDinner: whatever we’re having but his is often deconstructed to be a protein with dip (say chicken breast cut into strips with one of our extra CFA sauces); veggie with some kind of sweetener (sweet potato with marshmallows); fruitDessert: whatever we have in the houseBig Issue 1: His diet is very carb heavy. If I pack a healthier lunch for him, he just won’t eat it at school. If we try to give him healthier dinners and not give him things like marshmallows for his vegetables, he won’t eat it. When it gets to the point where we take away dessert for not eating his dinner, he throws a fit.Big Issue 2: the bigger issue really - I feel held hostage by his behaviors during eating. I mean, it’s a daily struggle to get him to eat and the threat of the tantrum is always there. My wife is more lenient on him because she cares more about him getting food in his stomach (though she’ll take away his dessert when necessary). I’m to the point where I want to tell him he can leave the dinner table when he’s disrupting everyone and that he can eat his dinner later or go to bed hungry.My wife and I are kind of health nuts and eat mostly protein and veggies with some carbs. We eat desserts sparingly. It’s difficult to see him eating an unhealthy diet when we’re doing well for ourselves. Feels selfish. Worse, discipline and authority is being challenged and I’m not sure what to do.**Feel like I should note the kid has never been in trouble at school or elsewhere once. Not once. Just challenges our parental authority at home sometimes. I know that’s typical, but I didn’t want anyone thinking he’s this problem kid all day long. Mostly during eating times. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FG3IK9

4 year old son is making repetitive strange noises

My husband and I are starting to be concerned but really don’t know if there anything to be done. My son is an otherwise very bright, happy, typically developing kid. A few months ago he started make weird slurping noises. Since then it has become increasingly frequent and in the last few weeks he’s started adding in other sounds before and after the slurp. It’s always the same pattern of sounds in a row and sometimes will be as frequent as 30 seconds-1 minute for awhile. He says he can’t stop doing it. Any ideas for what I can do to help him control it? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WzxRkX

How to be more interactive with my young toddler?

Hi all - I’m feeling like a pretty terrible parent.I have a toddler who is 18 months old to be exact. I think it’s a difficult age for activities because she’s not big enough to really play in play museums around here (3+) or have the attention span to do bigger toddler/kid activities but too old for baby things.I feel like I’m not being interactive with my child. Most days I have her watch YouTube videos (Little Baby Bum, Cocomelon) as it’s my go to when I have to be doing something else, or she plays with her toys. We do love going out as the weather warms up but the mosquito population is terrible in our area.What can I do to interact with her more? Any favorite toys you would recommend? Educational activities? Just any tips or comments? Because I feel like a lousy parent. I feel like other parents probably do way more with their children. She is my first and I never grew up around babies/kids so I’ve been learning everything as I go! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HPTE4u

my 10 year old can't tell time

What it says in the title. George can read a digital clock but not an analogue one. He is protected at the moment because he is young and at the moment segregated from nuro typical students, however all of this will change next year. I'm worried other kids will pick on him. I have tried to teach him myself but I'm not getting anywhere I find myself avoiding it now and I often have to cut the sessions short because I find myself getting annoyed and I want to avoid traumatizing him or turning this into a chore, also this brings back some very painful memories for me which I'm not gonna talk about right now. I had to cut a session short yesterday which upset him as he wanted so bad to prove to me he could do it, which also made me feel bad. I know for a fact that he is not being taught about this at school, because I have looked through his school books and seen no evidence of this. What am I going to do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2uASDVx

Me [52M] just found out at least 4 of my 5 children [33F][30F][28M][24F][14F] are not mine. Wife [51F] wont say anything.

I apologize if this is not an appropriate sub to ask. I posted this on r/relationships but it was locked, and the mod suggested I ask here.First of all, I'm sorry if this ends up being long and rambly, I am not really in the best state of mind. My world has been turned upside down over the last couple of weeks. I just want to write as much context as possible so I can get the best advice needed. For obvious reasons, I am not yet comfortable talking about this with my friends/parents/siblings.Background: I met my wife when we were in highschool and we married in college. We have 5 beautiful children together - really, I consider them a total blessing regardless of what I'm about to bring up - and up until a couple of weeks ago I thought that we had the perfect marriage. We were typical highschool sweet hearts, we go out together, we never fight, I feel like I've done everything a loving husband should do. I am saying this not to make myself out as the perfect husband, for example my work has always meant I work long hours and maybe haven't always been there when she needed me, but I want to stress that I've never felt our marriage was in any trouble. And never in a million years would I ever have suspected my wife of being disloyal - she's always done everything she could to support me and take care of our children.Now, my eldest daughter recently had an ancestry test done. And the results of the ancestry test strongly suggested I was not her father. She confided this to me privately, showing me the results and I could tell she was visibly upset by this. Of course, the first thing I did was reassure her that no matter what, she's my daughter and I'll always love her unconditionally. But secondly, the two of us decided to get an official paternity test since the ancestry tests are not completely reliable. It comes back and I am indeed not her biological father.This news really broke me. I'm ashamed to say I broke down in tears in front of my daughter. The combination of finding out about my wife's infidelity and how upset I was making my daughter by how I was reacting. I really wish I had kept it in for her sake, but I didn't.Following this I asked my other children, except my youngest, to come and see me. I wanted to know the extent of my wife's infidelity - if it was a one off, I could maybe work past it, especially given how long ago it would be. However I didn't want to tell my youngest as she is still in school, a teenager, and really I didn't think it was appropriate to tell her yet.We tell the other three what has happened, I reassure them that I love them unconditionally and that I'll always be there dad, but that I need to know how long this has been going on. God, I can't begin to explain how touching their reaction was. They didn't care I wasn't their biological father, they were just upset at how heart broken I was. I feel like the only thing that has kept me going these last couple of weeks is their unwavering support.So we have paternity tests for each of the three done. Not only are none of them my biological children, together four of my children have three different fathers. Which somehow made it worse. It's like, she wasn't just having an ongoing affair, she was having multiple? I can't explain how this make it worse, but it just does.So I confront my wife with this, expecting her to confess and beg for forgiveness. She doesn't confess. She doesn't even take it seriously. She says the tests must be flawed. All four? How the hell am I supposed to take that seriously?I keep bringing it up and she keeps brushing it off, getting progressively more annoyed at me. When I bring it up she will try and guilt trip me. "We've been together since highschool, do you seriously not trust me?" etc. But how am I supposed to trust her in the face of such overwhelming evidence?Now that I have rambled and explained what has happened. I guess let me ask a few direct questions for adviceHow can I reassure my children this doesn't change anything between us? I feel like the way I have reacted, total break downs, has made them second guess this despite however many times I reassure them.How do I handle my youngest daughter? I feel like our marriage is beyond saving, and I will need to tell my daughter something. I don't want her to know the truth until she's older, but I also don't want my wife lying and making me out to be the villain.Is there anyway, anyway at all, you think I could or should save my marriage? I've been with my wife my entire life it's almost impossible to see a life without her. I know that the answer should be a clear cut "leave her", but we have 5 kids together. If there's anything that can be done to save our marriage, I want to consider it seriously.tl;dr: Found out at least 4 of my 5 kids are not mine. Wife refuses to confess her infidelity. Unsure of how to do what's best for my children and marriage. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2V3IcFn

Shout out to the single dads who can’t afford a lawyer

I’m with you.Just last week I had court order made and so far I have yet to see my youngest daughter. It’s been 6 months now, and I probably won’t see her until the end of April.I’ve been to the Attorney Generals office, the district clerks office, the district attorneys office, the judge, the sheriffs office, the local PD, CPS office. Everyone told me the same thing.We can’t give you legal advice.This is the most frustrating thing that I’ve ever dealt with. What’s the point of having a court order if you don’t even have to obey it?But shoutout to the guys that have to listen to “gEt aN aTtOrNeY” even though they already charge hundreds of dollars an hour. Must be nice having money to afford one. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FMeoYL

Super Wing

Yes, this is rediculous to question this cartoon, but some things have to be pointed out. First off Jet shows up "on time every time so he says" so he says. Even though he has no other deliveries. What kind of delivery man has one delivery? But Then after enviting himself into the home of the so called customer he invites himself to whatever the child is doing and the patent has no problem with it. He always says, "that sounds likes fun" and the kid all willy nilly invites him along and the parent says have a great time and off they go. We know Jets a great walking talking airplane that delivers packages, but how do these cartoon parents know? More importantly how do our kids know they next time a jet like character wants to skip off with them for a quick adventure? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TJj31A

At my wits end with 12yo son

He stinks like onions. He does use deodorant and showers, but he still stinks. I did his laundry and his shirts still smell like onions. Ironically, he smells worse when he hasn't been physically active. Do I need a stronger detergent? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FC6bFd

Just gonna brag about my kid for a sec, feel free to join!

My son is 6, in kindergarten, and he has adhd. He's been on meds for maybe 5 months now, and although it's still a work in progress, I'm super proud of him. He has learned so much this year. The important stuff, math and spelling/reading. I know that doesn't sound like a lot, but I'm over the moon that he's engaging with his education and able to focus and really learn. He's had some behavioral hiccups at school, but he's improving there too.It's just a massive relief to me. I'm not very focused on grades, but i place a huge amount of importance on the process of learning, and being able to use the things he's learned. I know it's a struggle for him to focus, and that worries me a lot. As a mom i just want to wave my magic wand and make everything easier for him, you know? But he clearly doesn't even need me to. He's doing it. And he seems much happier with himself too. That's what i want to see. Him living a happy and fulfilling life.Anyway, that's enough of my rambling. Feel free to brag about your kiddos too. Big or little, it's all important. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TLQBft

Birthday

4 year old daughter: 🎶happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you. 🎶Pappy: thank you4-year-old daughter: time for me to blow out your lights...Pappy: wowEveryone else in tears 😂 via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2uyNY6t

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My best friend texted me saying that she " walked in " on her son and my sons girlfriend having sex !!??

Basically she (my best friend Rachelle ) came home from work an hour early and walked in on them.My son is on the sensetive side and id hate to see his reactionThe other boy (my friends son) is the "tough kid" in the neighborhood.Parents of reddit: I think he should find out on his own as it would be embarrassing to hear thus from your mother Am I making the right decision or no??.Im 100% positive my son dosent know anything as he is not a open relationship.Me and my friend are both divorced mothers.Me 43 Friend 44My son and his gf been together since they were 15Theyre 16 17 now and my friends son is 16. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WBIyU3

No more Cardi B

My same little 3 yo who surprised me with the F bomb surprised me again yesterday by coming up to me and singing “I got bands in da coupe, touch me and I’ll shoot”. I can’t with this kid. Guess Cardi is off the playlist 😂 via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FLC7s6

I’m So Frustrated With My Wife Over Elementary School Choice

My wife, my 2.5 yr old son, and I are in the market for our first home. We just finished a huge fight because she wants to send our son to poorly rated school in order to buy a nicer house. I know test scores aren’t everything, but this school, and others she’s mentioned, performed in the bottom 10% of elementary schools in KENTUCKY. That’s pretty fucking bad. They also sit in the bottom 10% in progress. I haven’t said this, but I think she’s being really selfish and I think she blew up at me today because she knows it. I couldn’t care less about the house I live in. I just want it to keep my stuff dry, be safe, and have enough resale value to get my money back if I have to jet. I even said, “This doesn’t have to be permanent. We can buy a house, aggressively pay down the principal, rennovate it over time, then try to upgrade to nicer place when we have some equity built into it.” But that’s not good enough. She says that elementary school doesn’t matter all that much and that we can supplement going to one of the worst schools in one of the worst states for education. I think elementary school is the most important section of an academic career. Plus, it’s going to be his whole life for 6 or 7 years. My son didn’t ask to be born. We made him without any consent. He deserves better than that. I at least want him to go to a school that is just average. Am I wrong here? Obviously, this is one side of the story, but fuck if I’m not tired of this shit.TL;DR Wife wants to send 2.5 yr old son to a crap elementary school so we can afford a bigger and better house. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TGucA8

My wife and I were thinking about moving to a different country after our twins move out for college. Is this completely selfish?

My wife and I have 3 kids and live in Washington state. The oldest is 20 and is attending college in California. My daughter got accepted to her top choice school in California a couple days ago and my other son is committed to a university in Idaho for sports. Our daughter's safety school was in Washington but she's going to be attending her top choice. None of our kids will be in Washington come September.My wife is originally from Australia and we have always wanted to move back. We were considering selling the house and moving there at the end of this year since all of the kids will be out of the house anyway. I was talking to a friend about our plans after our kids graduate and she said it sounded awfully selfish. We are funding their tuitions and give the oldest money for his apartment since he doesn't live on campus (not enough space for everyone) and will probably do the same for our daughter after freshman year. Her twin brother is guaranteed four years of room and board with his scholarship. We are older parents. I'm 57 and my wife is 60. We are a close knit family and plan to visit but is it really that selfish to move forward with our lives as our kids do the same? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HNH5Xt

Is TOO much independent play a thing?

My daughter is 2 years old (will be 3 in July). She has always been independent. She was content lying on her activity mat at 4 weeks old for 15-20 minutes, just staring at the toys above her.At childcare, most of the kids are currently in the stage of parallel play but many of them do play with each other. Most of them try to get my daughter to play with them but usually, she’s uninterested and wants to do her own thing.She is in the process of being evaluated for autism (early intervention once a week), so that could possibly play a role. I just worry because I see other parents who are able to play imaginary games with their toddlers and mine will stare at me and go do something else if I try to engage (build blocks next to her, draw next to her, put on a silly hat, etc.).I love that I can get chores done while she plays and sometimes, she does want to help me with chores! My dad told me not to worry and when he was 2 (1950’s), his mom just put him outside all day to play with his sisters and neighbor friends and they were allowed in for lunch and dinner. My parents did play with me (1990’s) but I also remember playing on our farm by myself or with siblings while the parents were inside.I guess I’m just wondering if anyone has a toddler who can do their own thing all day long. Also wondering if autism could play a role in her independence. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2YCYTK1

Finally Got The House Clean!!! A couple questions

1) Can somebody explain the birds and the bees of toys to me? Because either somebody is smuggling thousands of toys a day into our house, or they're reproducing.2) Anyone wanna take bets on how long this neatness and cleanliness lasts? It took about 2 and a half hours to get the house presentable for guests coming this evening..... Kiddo and Momma will be home in about an hour..... The question is how destroyed will it be when they show up and I try to pretend we aren't animals?3) Who put all these socks under the couch?4) Why does my daughter think when she's done with her pacifier the storage place for it while in her crib is to throw it in the crack between the wall. There's a pile of Binky's down there.5) We had a full bucket of Legos. Riddle me this Batman! Why is there only half a bucket? Huh?! Where could they have gone?!6) I just remembered I have to dust..... Crap via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2THzScZ

April Fools Pranks for Kids?

My son is 11 and I’d like to pull a prank or two on him, but of course nothing that’s too scary, high effort or messy. Have any of you pulled off good ones? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2CJr54M

Minivan or crossover?

My family is going to need a vehicle with third-row seating in the near future. Parents with a minivan or crossover, what do you drive and what do you like/dislike about it? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2V5FpLZ

Young parents with no experience

Not too sure if this belongs here but couldn’t really find any other relevant threads so please point me in the right direction if you know some more relevant threads.To cut a long story short, last year me and my girlfriend of 5 years were told that due to her condition, the chances of her conceiving were incredibly low, bordering the impossible.However, to our absolute shock and euphoria, a few days ago we found out she is pregnant, around 4/5 weeks in. I’m 23, work part time and I am coming to the end of a degree this summer and she is 21 and works full time in a clothing store.What are some tips that you can provide that will help us prepare both financially and in general for the birth of our new child.Thanks in advance :) via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2uDnjpg

My 5 year old son is having night terrors and it’s driving me INSANE!

He, “wakes up,” several times a night screaming bloody murder but is never actually awake! He wakes the entire house and then I have to calm his 2 year old sister and him back to sleep! I want to be able to calm him but all I do is get worked up. I keep reading to just let him be and that it’ll pass, but by the time it passes he’s woken his sister and now they are both truly awake...please tell me there are other parents that have experienced this! What do you do? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2CHIVFe

Economic Studies on Children Under Three?

Has anyone ever done a study on economic decision making in children under three? Because if they have, I'd really be interested in reading it.In our house, best I can tell: the value of a toy, no matter the monetary value, is one M&M. Regardless of utility and opportunity cost, a toy can always be traded for one M&M.However: one M&M will not be spent in exchange for any toy. Even her favorite toys. It's almost like that single M&M is priceless. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2V7B2A2

The Constant Sick Cycle

My son will be 10 months old next week and has been in daycare full time since he was 4 months. He's been thriving there, and honestly, I'm a better mom when I have projects and goals outside of our home. The first few months went great. Then January hit and it's been an unended cycle of colds, teething and developmental jumps. It feels like it's been months since everyone in our house has been healthy and happy at the same time. I know bugs are a normal part of daycare, especially when he's at this stage where everything goes in his mouth, but my husband and I are beyond exhausted.Does anyone have any advice on how to help us break this cycle? Does it get better when cold and flu season slows down? How old were your kiddos when they built up an immune system strong enough to not succumb to every little thing that comes through? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2U7yyW6

Telling your child planned events

Sharing a funny moment.This weekend we have planned a trip to an indoor water park. We hadn’t told our son(2.5) yet in case he got sick, he’s been sick about every two weeks or so and didn’t want to ruin anything. Well last night I gave in and told him we were going. Immediately he starts excitedly saying ‘waterpark!’. I remind him we will be going tomorrow after he wakes up from sleep. He had been sick two weeks ago and we still had blankets piled on our floor as his makeshift bed, he goes over, lays down and pretends to snore. He then gets up and goes to the bathroom door where his dad is and says ‘wake up daddy, wake up, waterpark!’ via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2V1H3ye

Porn found in 12 year old sons phone and chrome book

The other night my husband ( sons step-dad) found a lot of porn in my sons phone and chrome book. I know this is normal for age but how do I talk to my son about this? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2TFYfrH

My husband leaves during conflict and it’s having a negative effect on our family. Need other perspectives please.

My husband and I have been together a while, married for 2 years and have a one year old. When things get overwhelming, my husband walks away, as in leaves the property.. drives away. I’m all for that when we are fighting but now that we have a child, he walks away when she’s upset.Just an hour ago was an example, we took the binky away from our daughter and she’s having trouble sleeping without it. We sang her to sleep for a nap and rocked her, she wasn’t having it. My husband puts her in the crib to “cry it out.” After about five minutes he grabs her from the crib and puts a binky on her mouth then walks out the door yelling profanities. I know he’s frustrated but he’s too rough with her and leaving doesn’t help anyone. Now my daughter was inconsolable and I’m left alone. It’s frustrating because I want us to be a team but he quits on me.I understand people need space, but your child’s needs come first. If this was a once in a while problem, I could live with it, but weekly is getting out of hand. I’ve spoken to him a bunch of times after she’s gone to bed but nothing changes. I’m not the perfect partner either but we have to be a team.Am I overreacting because I’m upset too? Is this rational and I’m just not sympathizing with his way of coping? I need outside perspectives because I’m feeling via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HRmIJ4

Parenting at 4AM

My child is awake right now.I had to use the bathroom.She cried and screamed for me before coming out to find me.Now I’m using the bathroom with a toddler on my lap. But at least she’s not upset anymore.She’s rubbing my back and telling me she loves me.This is parenting at 4AM. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WCnHjN

Grandparent trying to parent my child... help?

My mother, mid-sixties, is over-involved in my daughter’s [10] life. I’ve tried setting boundaries around my personal life with her (I spend zero time with her outside of transporting my daughter to & fro her house) and would prefer my daughter didn’t spend as much time with her, but they’re close & daughter enjoys their time together when she’s not complaining about gma controlling her every move.I got a text tonight asking how “we” were going to manage my “getting too obese” daughter who is six pounds overweight. She is in the 91st percentile for her height/age. She is medium-active but a grazer/snacker like her father.Her father, (we’re divorced), other grandmother, & I are obese, but I’ve set a better example by not having sugary drinks or unhealthy snacks in the house. Also, I’m dieting have lost 20 pounds & plan to lose more. And I had a good track record of being physically active until the last year or so. They do not set a good example & are likely big enablers of bad eating habits.So basically I feel like she’s blaming me with this “we” talk when I’m not guilty. And also fretting about something that is none of her business. She has a long history of undermining my parenting and my child’s fathers parenting as well.How do I tell my mother that this requires zero intervention on her part? And that if she starts her historic patterns if shaming, manipulative behaviors & comments, that I will restrict her time with my daughter? I don’t want my child absorbing grandmothers shittyness.Clearly I want to be “nice” and “respectful” but also get a clear message across for her to butt out.Thanks. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FKfCns

My 3 yo has 2 tumours

My 4yo has 2 tumours on her brain. The left one was quite large. I found it through taking her to an ophthalmologist because her vision was quite poor and she was super clumsy. It took 4 months to get in to see her!Anyway she did some testing and said she had a pale optic nerve, her eyes were turning inwards and her head was turning inwards to compensate for her sight so she would send a referral off to an outpatient neurologist and they would call me. Over the course of the weekend though She vomited once and kept on complaining of a stinging headache behind her forehead. So I called her back on Monday and she said take her to the ER straight away and she would fax the referral to the registrar. We were in ER for ages and they decided to do a CT scan. That’s when they found the mass on her brain. The senior specialist of paediatric oncology came to see us and said it’s unusual and she has to stay on the ward.She had an MRI scan and it showed the tumours in more detail so they booked her in for surgery on Thursday which took 6 hours and the goal was just to relieve some pressure off her brain, not to remove it all.She had another MRI and then she came home on Wednesday night. At this stage they know it’s a glioma so she will have to have chemo weekly for a year as well as numerous other types of therapies. On top of this I have to contend with my abusive ex partner and have to play nice for her sake. It’s exhausting and I’m lost. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2WAwkvc

Can you help r/Parenting??

Hey folks!A little while ago the mods talked about creating a resource for r/Parenting. It would serve two purposes. First, for our parents - when you're really struggling and don't know where to turn a couple of good options to call, email, etc. Our community has rallied in the past for folks in need looking for local resources. Second - for the not-parents that show up and really do need some kind of help but their post technically breaks the sub rules.If you've peeked around the sub you already know we offer a reading list and YouTube channel suggestions. The "Parenting Resource" would expand this idea a little bit. A good example was when someone posted that they were thinking of ending their life and people in comments provided links and resources to the OP. As a mod, I was able to grab the most helpful bits and sticky them for the OP's use.While sourcing every post like this certainly helps, I'd like to be able to provide this information in a single click as our sub approaches one million subscribers.We've had a huge spike in subscribers in the last month or so - which means more people than ever are visiting the sub and that means more people with parenting issues that sometimes need more help than an upvote. And because it's the internet we never know when that help is genuinely needed or just a prank. A tangible resource would help the people that really need help and prevent others from wasting their time with a potential troll, too. And once the resource is in place - those posts that don't really belong here but obviously are looking for some help can use the resource.So - what are we looking for from you? Links!General child care.Care specific to an age or stage (age: newborn, tween, college students - stage: teething, puberty, learning to drive).Child/family welfare - something general like this or maybe something specific to your local area, state, or even religion.Mental health resources (PPD, grief counseling).Special needs or early intervention.It's certainly not a comprehensive list. For example, as a former military spouse, I have a ton of resources for military families. Links to videos that help kids cope with deployment, official government websites, charities, etc. We've also had discussions about bone marrow and organ donation - every country has its own database. Also, subs relevant to a specific issue (I use the resources from the r/SuicideWatch sub all the time, it's been an amazing community resource) that better fit someone's needs.And this is important - I WANT OUR INTERNATIONAL COMMUNITY to share as well!What kinds of links?YouTubeOfficial websitesUnofficial, but "trusted" sites (like Kellymom)Government websitesOther types of websites I haven't listed, but have sound, helpful information that can be verifiedBut NOT: Amazon/retail linksI'm not sure how long to keep this up. We can play it by ear and see how it goes. Cheers! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2I6QIAb

My son was punched in the face today by a kid who mistakenly thought my son was friends with kids who picked on him. I was not notified and my son had to miss afternoon recess.

My 7 year old (first grade) was playing on the playground during recess. They have before school recess and lunch recess. This was before school recess. My son was/is friends with one boy a lot of kids pick on. My son was playing with one of the boys who picks on the bullied kid. The bullied kid came up to my son and asked him why he was friends with the other boy. My son said he wasn't friends with him but they needed someone else for their game. The other boy called the bullied kid a name and the bullied kid punched my son in the face without any warning. My son was sent to the nurse because his lip was bleeding.My son walked home from school and when he came in the door I noticed his lip. I asked what happened and he said that he was punched in the face. He's been home for an hour and still no call from the school about the incident but my son said that he, the bullied kid, and the other boy were all made to miss lunch recess. He has a note stating the he had to miss recess because he was involved in an altercation but they said my son wasn't at fault. We know the bullied kid and I asked his mom what her son's story was. She said that her son got mad and hit without thinking. He's not suspended.Am I wrong for being pissed about this situation? I didn't get any call to explain what happened from the school, my son was punished for being punched, and the other kid isn't being disciplined beyond lunch detention for punching my son. Am I too into mama bear mode? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2ux14kN