OMG threenager

Amazing little dude, turned 3 a couple of months ago, and his personality COMPLETELY changed.He is a ball of emotions at all times. If the slightest thing doesn't go his way, we get tears, screaming, and aggression (destructive behaviour and lashing out physically, primarily kicking). He has lost the ability to focus on anything - this was a kid who used to spend an hour playing with his little people toys, and now can't seem to do anything for more than a couple of minutes before he loses control, something doesn't go his way and the temper flares.He has also become extremely defiant - refusing to do ANYTHING. We offer choices - these PJs, or those ones. No response, we tell him we'll make the choice. He can put them on, or we will. Inevitably he refuses and it becomes a physical struggle for us to manhandle him to get dressed, put shoes on, go to the bathroom, get into the car seat, ANYTHING.We don't give in to tantrums. We give him space, tell him to come to us when he's ready for a hug, and talk about his big feelings and what we can do to help feel better. We do not allow him to hit or kick, and will either block him or remove ourselves. My husband has lost it a couple of times and yelled at him, but it's like our son isn't there, he doesn't respond to the yelling and just continues crying and kicking (basically in lizard brain).Nothing has changed in our lives. He's at the same daycare with the same kids, everything is the same at home. We do know that one boy in his class has been having issues with aggression, and our son comes home with stories like "B pushed me, B hit me", etc., but we also know our son is showing this same behaviour at school that he is at home.Normal 3 year old stuff? Any survival tips that will allow us to keep some semblance of our sanity? It's hard both because he's making life so unpleasant for US, but more than that it is clear that he is miserable and we don't know how to help him through it. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2oyWeQs