Fought our 6 year old for a year to our absolute wits end over bedtime. Now we made a deal that works, but I'm afraid it's a selfish one.

We made a deal with her. You are in your room after 8:30. The rest of the night is mom and dad time. Stay in there and you can play with your toys or read/look at books as late as you want.She just wasn't sleeping. She stopped napping at 2 years old and since then has only napped if she's sick. So once night comes around she is overtired as fuck. She turns into a nightmare. Running out of her room, offering up toys for fun when we threaten to take them away, picking her up without a word and putting her back in just became a game to her.So we figured, if we are going to fight with her from 8 to 10 or 11 every night, why not just let her stay awake those hours in her room. She's up just as late, but she's calm, no one is stressed, no one is yelling or crying.For a couple weeks it's worked, but she just passes out wherever she is. On her floor, at the end of her bed uncovered, hanging off the bed. It doesn't look comfortable or restful, but she falls asleep on her own by 9:30 or 10, sometimes earlier.I'm just worried that we may be setting a bad habit. I mean, I truly feel like she's going to be a night owl anyway. But she definitely doesn't get 10 hours of sleep before school, and she's not the kind of kid to fall asleep earlier the next day because of less sleep the previous night.Are we doing an OK trade off? She is getting more sleep than she was, and she's calm leading up to it. If she isn't going to get as much sleep as she may need, at least it can be a more peaceful rest right? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2bwospC