Parents of older kids- at what age was your baby ‘independent’?

Currently struggling with a one year old. She has big feelings but not enough words to communicate, so lots of screaming throwing etc. Everything online said it will get better but it somehow seems harder. Less time to rest and more ambiguity. Like is she hungry? Thirsty? Bored?At what age are they able to mostly communicate their needs, eat without throwing a tantrum and overall not be as difficult to her their needs met? Tired mom here looking for some perspective. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2FBHwBK