Do you think parents should confer alone and discuss controversial issues before speaking with the kids?

Basically, my husband blew up at me in front of our teenage son and said he thought I was the problem regarding issues with our son. Now, I'm completely willing to believe this might be the case (my whole family growing up was severely dysfunctional, and I think I'm parenting from an anxiety standpoint where I'm not seeing things as they really are). At the same time, I think maybe he should have spoken to me about this without our son present, because now I have probably zero authority in his eyes regarding anything. Opinions?? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2KyrnQX