How do you manage a siblings feeling inferior to their brother during the tween/teen years.

My younger two are boys, ages 14 and 12 (25 months apart if it matters). They have always been close. My daughter left for college in August so we had an extra room for one of the boys but they agreed to leave it for their sister when she comes home for breaks. They both said they liked sharing a room anyway.They get along well as brothers but my younger one admitted that he feels like he lives in his brother's shadow. Both plays sports (football, hockey, and lacrosse for the oldest and football and baseball for the youngest) but the older one is the natural athlete while the younger one is servicable but not among the best on the team. That is okay and all but the younger one says he feels like people expect him to be as good as his brother. They don't even play the same position. Older son is a wide receiver and corner and younger son is a lineman. I would think that would help the comparisons but it hasn't.It doesn't end with sports. The older one is charming and has a lot of friends. He just started dating and the younger one has had girls at his school tell him they have a crush on his brother. The younger one has a close group of friends but doesn't have the social life his brother had when he was in 7th grade. We don't care but my younger one does. Lately he has been comparing body types. The older one was always naturally skinny but bulked up a little this year and is at a healthy 125 pounds at 5'4. The younger one complains about being fat. He isn't. He's 113 pounds at 5'0 and the doctor said he needs to grow into his weight rather than lose it but he thinks he's fat.Grades are also a problem. The older one aces everything without even trying even in honors courses. The younger one was just diagnosed with ADHD and we are working to help him but school has always been a struggle.He said he doesn't like feeling this way and loves his brother but I don't know how to help him. He knows his brother doesn't always have it easy. The 14 year old was diagnosed with Type 1 a few years ago and the 12 year old knows the struggle but he feels like life comes so much easier to his brother and is tired of being compared to his brother. We do not compare but everyone else does, including the 12 year old. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2myBXO3