Having issues with daycare and not sure what to do or if we're making it more than it is

Our son (2.5yo) has been in daycare full time since the beginning of December. He is autistic and has a really hard time at home but when he is at daycare he is thriving! I was so happy to see that he's doing well there but about a month ago we decided we didn't want to baby him forever and we got him a toddler bed and took away his crib.We were mentally preparing ourselves for meltdowns and knew it would be rough. We picked him up at daycare that evening before showing him his new bed and found out that the new daycare worker washed his weighted blanket that specifically says on the tag to spot clean, but it was in our son's notes not to wash it because it comes home with us every night. The other worker that was also in the room said "even I know you're not supposed to wash those." Anyway we expressed disappointment but in no way were threatening or loud or rude.. we were frustrated because the night he needs that blanket the most, he can't use it because it's sopping wet (it hadn't made it to the dryer yet)Anyway she went to the administration and complained that she felt scared.... I was thinking maybe she's just afraid of men? My husband can look intimidating I guess but I was there with him and all he did was walk away with our son while I spoke to her and the other teacher.So the administration had a meeting with us and had us sign some paper basically about respect and all of that and we did but now it's kind of awkward. When my husband drops off my son in the morning like 2-3 of the workers come over and INSPECT our son and this morning they asked how he hurt his finger (it's a small mark) and he is like "I have no idea?" Because our son climbs stuff all day long and there's no way to tell how he gets little marks on him. It's not like we are bringing him in there all bruised up.They aren't like this with any other parent at drop off and we know that because we see other parents drop their kids off all the time and it's not a big ordeal. He just feels like they are trying to find a way to call CAS on us or something. We are super involved with therapists and medical professionals because he's autistic and doing the best we can and we feel like they are just being ridiculous. Idk, like I said, we might be making it more than what it is. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2SX2L7P