Parenting throwaway bc my main is weird.Step mom of 8 years here. I'm really livid and upset right now. Heads up this will be long.Our 13 y/o boy has been showing his little brother porn. He's with us only on weekends. We've taken away all his device access and what he can use is heavily monitored when he's with us. It hasnt been a problem in a several months. He went to grandmas with the little ones this past weekend and got his hands on a tablet. Started showing my just barely 7 y/o how to search for porn and showed him videos. 7 y/o was very upset and told.This has been an ongoing problem. He has done this last year with my now 8 y/o. We've been teaching sex ed since l.o. came up asking about oral sex out of the blue and found out. We cut off all device access and have been building up trust to where the eldest has been allowed to use devices closely monitored. The first chance he got...he rook it and ran with it.We had a similar issue when eldest was around 8-10 and got caught looking for stripper and hooker videos on YouTube. At the time he said it made him feel gross. We worked with him and things got better but its become a serious issue now.I'll put it out there. I am a childhood sexual abuse survivor. I really don't take well to my 13 y/o tainting my innocent babies. I dont know how to get him help. And i want to keep them from this stuff as long as possible. Sex is great...its not a bad thing. But i really dont want their sexual ideations based on porn. Idk what - exactly - hes showing them.He also steals and lies impulsively. I'm really worried about his future but I also want to protect the little ones.His mom doesn't take it seriously. Shes a therapist and this stuff gets shrugged off. I don't understand.When he recently got caught with porn there it seemed to be a big blow out. She sent him here for a week and he had no phone at her place 2-4 weeks. Just the other day he left his phone on top of his moms car...good riddance! (He can only use it for emergencies when here). He was bragging about how sad he was aboit it because he just got YouTube and internet back. WTF!! I was shocked when this has been an issue for so long and she has been aware of it.We don't have him often and are very poor. I want to get him in for a psych eval and therapy but idk how. With the limited time and funds as well as being a noncustodial parent. Im so worried about how this behavior will affect him growing as a teen and into young adulthood. Also, again, dont want the babes exposed to this.We have a small house and the 3 share a room. I sleep in what used to be the living room its an open space and on the flip side of the enormous fireplace that acts as a divider is our game room. I want to take him out of the boys room and put him in the opposite room on his mattress or an air mattress for the time being while we figure out how to go forward.So. Do I have a tiny porn addict on my hands; is that possible? How do I get him help for his implusive behaviors? Is it wrong to seperate him from them if it means lack of privacy for a pubescent teen? How can I better protect the little brothers? Ugh.Im just so frustrated and disgusted. This was not what I expected for raising 3 boys. I love them but I'm not well equipped for this die to my background. My husband is going to handle the conversation for obvious reasons but Im seeking advice for the time leading up to that.Thank you for your advice fellow parents!Edit: To the 15 year old who was responding. I do value your opinion and wish you didn't delete your comments. I was going to show my husband your response as some insight from today's teenaged male (i know i sound old. Idc.). Im sorry you were getting downvoted. I do value your opinion no matter how biased or jaded it was. Feel free to pm me so I can still share what you said. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2vpKVxz
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