How to form a healthy relationship with your children that lasts?

I have a 3 year old and another on the way. My parents and I have an ok relationship. We live far away from them and we talk about once a week so they can chat with my daughter. We only share pleasantries and don't really get into detail. They raised me an a very authoritarian household ( strict, very religious, not allowed to question rules...)I don't want this relationship with my children when they are adults. My husband and I try to communicate in a caring way and never yell. I want them to come talk with me because they want to not out of some obligation. If you have a good relationship with your parents, how? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/34a1kFQ