Serious: Siblings, did you ever notice growing up if your parents spent more/less money on you than your brother(s)/sister(s)? How did it affect you then, and how did everyone turn out in the long run?

Husband and I are reflecting on our own childhoods, and I wanted to know how to equally spend on our children so that it's fair. If baby #1 wants to do sports that cost $xyz, but baby #2 likes staying at home/something less costly than $xyz, do we spend as much on baby #2 until it equal's baby #1's expenditures on sports?We've also reflected on our own experiences growing up, and we've realized that the siblings who typically get "spoiled" montarily also tend to have less drive to become independent and are less appreciative than us. (We're both the eldest of four in our families, repectively, youngest siblings got pricey educations and private music lessons, we were expected to figure college etc. out on our own.)I'm sure everyone has a different story, I was interested to hear different perspectives on how you were raised, what works and what doesn't with your kids, and most importantly, if you ever noticed monetary favoritism growing up and how it made you feel?So many run-on sentences, sorry! I truly appreciate any insight you may have and thank you deeply for any advice you have to offer! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2qCZcm0