At a loss with my son's behavior, and I don't know what to do.

I am not exactly sure how to word this, so I will give it my best shot. My eight-year-old son was diagnosed with mild to moderate ADHD back when he was four. At first the diagnosis felt insulting. I'd grown up during the 90's when the "Don't chemically lobotomize your children" movement was in full swing. After actually learning about what ADHD was, and its symptoms, I changed my stance.After some very conservative medication trials he flourished in school, though home has always been a bit of a struggle. His behavior took a serious dive this past December with the birth of his little brother. His mother and I were prepared for this. A new sibling is a big change for any kid, especially those with impulse control issues that don't adapt well to change. While he has shown no ill-will toward the baby, he did show signs of jealousy (that was to be expected). As the months drew own, he became bold and openly defiant of his mother and I. He took to yelling at us and threatening to hit us. This was nothing new for us. He has had these periods in the past, but we've always been able to talk him down or remove him from the situation until he can get his bearings.Recently though, his aggression spiked through the roof. He is actively screaming at us. He even stepped it up and threatened to kill, going as far as to tell me he wanted me to "die in a fire". Furthermore, he has taken to acting entitled and spoiled, with no prior history of ever doing so. He complains that something is broken, then screams at us to go out and buy him a new one. You need to understand, up to a few months back this kid would offer up his piggy bank to elevate any financial stress. He happily donated his toys so "kids without toys could have something to play with". He is like a completely different person.Most concerning is that he has grown increasingly violent, and prone to fits of rage. He seems to have focused this aggression toward his mother, punching, slapping, and kicking her in the legs and back. It is getting to the point where she is getting afraid to be left alone with him.We're strictly a "no-spank" household, but we are at a loss for what to do next. Every avenue we have gone down has proven fruitless. Calmly talking to him doesn't work, yelling doesn't work, limiting privileges, like electronics time, has only made him angrier. Both his mother and I are stressed and frustrated beyond words. Requests for counseling have fallen on def ears, and his med management officials won't see us before his scheduled appointment at the end of the month.I am at a loss. I have never felt so powerless as a parent. How do I reign in a kid that doesn't seem to care anymore? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2O729rY