My daughter, 7, has developed anxiety about several things. Seeking any and all advice.

Hello, everyone. Recently, my daughter (7) has brought to my attention that she has been feeling under pressure in school, both academically and socially.Academically, she is worried that she isn't intelligent and has gone as far as to call herself "dumb" and "useless." Which is shocking because she makes straight As, reads at a 4.7 grade level, and is very creative. Now going into 2nd grade, she is worried that she may not do as well, what if she receives a poor mark, etc. We have only asked her that she tries her best and that if she has difficulty with an assignment, we will help her in any way possible, whether it is on our own with her, with a tutor, or help from a teacher. She does very well but doesn't realize how intelligent she is. To her, receiving a 98 instead of 100 isn't good enough, or if she makes a mistake on a painting, she feels like the entire thing is ruined instead of attempting to repair the mistake. I'm not sure where this is coming from because we have never asked perfection from her. She even worries that in 5th grade (she's going into 2nd grade), she will be required to take kickball class and she won't do well.I'm wondering if her 1st grade teacher put her class under high pressure to do well. Her school is in the top 5% in the state and receives monetary awards for high performance marks. So there may or may not have been some influence there.Socially, she feels like everyone "hates her." She doesn't feel like she is "the same" as everyone else. Which is also surprising to hear because every time I come to visit her for lunch at school, I have seen other children flock to her. Every single time, at least one child has come up to her and hugged her. She has several friends and friendly acquaintances. However, I have also noticed that she is much more reserved around these kids. The other children are rather lively and playful, and my daughter is very playful at home but didn't seem to be that way at school, even when she wasn't aware that I had arrived. She seems to look for deeper connections with other children to form a deeper bond, to chat, to make jewelry together, form clubs, read, and just generally spend time together like very close friends would. There doesn't appear to be social anxiety or aversion but there is apparent social reservation with the desire to form a deeper friendship much more quickly than usual.Outside of these issues, she has also been developing a strong phobia of storms. Living in the south, we do have tornadoes but rarely in our area. It hurts my heart when she reaches out to me almost nightly about these feelings and that I can't magically make everything better, but I do want to help her in any way I can.I've offered the option of taking her to see my therapist who would help work together with us to break down some of these issues and approach them differently in an attempt to change her mindset and relieve her worries. Currently, she is not comfortable with that idea but does want to change how she feels lately. Any advice about these issues is so greatly appreciated. Thank you. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LpuVGA