Small backstory. I have 3 stepdaughters (8,8,10) and have a great relationship with them that has been built for the past 6 years. I have gotten full custody of my son when he was 8 and has been living with me ever since. My girlfriend and I have been living apart due to my demanding job and constant location changes. We have finally closed on a home and plan to move in the the next week, bringing or families together. Now it’s not like the first time our children have met. They know each other very well, and as kids their age they fight and argue at times nothing crazy.In the past 2 years our children have began to address each other as brother and sister, and this happen naturally nothing forced upon by us. Of course when they argue they “disown” one another, but like any other step siblings it’s to be expected. My son and I have slept over and so have they at our home countless times in the six year duration. When the sleep overs would happen in the early years we would allow my son to sleep in the girls room while the twins slept together. As they all grew older we began to separate the girls from my son when it came to lights out. My son would sleep on a pull-up bed. This practice has been in place for the past 2 years.Last night we slept over, and my girlfriend and I fell asleep earlier then usual. Now before we knocked out all the kids were playing video games. My girlfriend and I had already set the bed for my son in the living room. Normally I would shoe the kids off to bed before we fell asleep but this was different as we didn’t anticipate falling asleep as soon as we hit the bed.My internal clock wakes me up at 4:40am and has been for a while. Usually when I wake up on my days off I just go back to bed, but I quickly realized that I hadn’t put the kids to bed prior to me falling asleep. So I walk to the living room and didn’t find my son, so I walked to the girls room and pushed open the door to see my son emerge from their darkened room. I quickly as what he was doing and he quickly responded “we were just talking about the new house” as soon as he said that one of the twins said “yes we were talking about the rooms”. My son was now in the hallway with a guilty posture, one that I know very well when he has done something wrong. I asked him to tell me what was going on and why were you in their room on the dark. Same reply “talking about the new house”, I didn’t believe it. I asked in a more demanding manner and he finally said that they were being “inappropriate”. My heart sank and I felt complete shock. I didn’t know how to address that so I quickly set him to bed on the couch and walked away. I couldn’t fall asleep, I felt nauseous and still do. I made sure the girls were asleep and did so with my son as well about 5 min later before laying back down.I don’t know what to do or feel. I need to address this but I don’t know how. My girlfriend does not know yet as she works early morning shifts. We just bought a house and now I’m terrified something happened and I don’t know how to address it properly. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LdHSTX
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