Competitive parents

My daughter has become very close to a girl in her kindergarten class. She is a lovely little girl, and they get along so well. The problem is her mother is extremley competitive. She is pushing her children to acheive in subjects at school that are acknowledged publically. Her kids always have to be on the highest spelling list, highest home reader, best dressed for every school event, as well as often bragging about her children's achievements outside of school. Their home is beautiful and spotless, always very organised.My eldest daughter was in the same class as her eldest. They are froendly, however there is no friendship between them as her daughter (age 7) does not like to associate with my daughters other friends. This daughter is controlling in social situations, and does not have much in common with my daughter.The mother seems to like my family, as we must appear to be of the same 'status' as them. I have been told they are very rude to other families that they perceive as a lesser status. She particularly has an issue with stay at home mums.I have many concerns about this friendship. Is ok okay to ask the youngest daughter over, and not the eldest? I am very concerned that once she finds out that we are not as organised or as a prestigious as she perceives us to be, she will actively sabotage the friendship between the youngest girls, which would break my daughters heart! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zTbuR3