Reached the end of my rope with my 7 year old

I am new to posting on reddit and I'm really not sure how to word this or where to start. I feel completely and utterly defeated. My child's behavior has officially nosedived to the point where I'm at a loss and I really need help and advice. He's always had a bit of an attitude and some entitlement issues from a young age, but we were always able to correct the behavior, he would genuinely try better and improve and that would be that. Temper tantrums never lasted long and they were few and far between but now his behavior has slowly but surely gotten worse.It started primarily declining around 4, lying started popping up here and there for little things, a little boundary pushing and this is around the time he started going to daycare full time. We figured he was finding who he was with others, he was young and learning and socializing. Then he started having issues with one child in particular, where when they were together, they would either love or hate each other and act out constantly. This seemed typical, but on the other hand, the entitlement and lying increase. He started sneaking toys into daycare, lying more, hurting other kids, pushing more boundaries.Then school started and we had another child. We were expecting behaviors to get worse due to the new family member but his behavior seemed to stay pretty consistent with the occasional bad act, but again, we figured this was semi-normal for his age group and were even told this by his teacher. Some of the behaviors continued, but for the most part he wasn't too bad, we received a hand full of phone calls for the entire school year, the events consisted of: he cussed at his teacher; mooned other students; hit another kid, but all of these were isolated incidents and the behavior wasn't continuous. The thing I was primarily concerned about at the time was a lack of genuine emotions and empathy but I was told his behavior was quite normal. We would constantly talk to him, use disciplinary action like taking away screen time, toys, stand facing a wall, all of which never seemed to really make an impact.Now it's come to today. His behavior has completely nosedived and it is honestly causing so much emotional and mental strain for me, I don't know how to handle it.He has stolen a good amount of property from other kids throughout the weeks, lying to our faces that he "won the items" at schoolHe's broken his glasses and toys at home and hidden them, we found them todayThere are now 5 separate incidents of his kicking or hitting other kidsSeven different occasions (in the last week alone) of him screaming no, stomping his feet and sobbing for minutes on end when a teacher tells him to stop doing LITERALLY ANYTHINGWhenever he's angry he will twist his face in anger, clench fist and teeth, shaking in anger and yelling at usThrows an anger tantrum or starts sobbing whenever we ask him to do ANY chores, which for him usually includes laundry, vacuuming and general pick up.Lies about EVERYTHING. I can literally ask him if he picked up an item and right off the bat, no hesitation "yes!" even if I'm staring at the itemBlames everyone else but himself for everything. (The stealing? Oh it was some other kid who actually took the item, I just have it)Has purposefully lashed out and hurt every single person in the family (including the baby) when upset, including scratching, kicking, shoving toys in mouths, pulling toys forcefully away, throwing toys, etc.And this is only what I can think of off the top of my head; boundary pushing, not listening, purposefully breaking rules, talking back in the nastiest way possible, etc are all common daily occurrences at this point. We found out about a majority of this today from a phone call from the school (still upset we weren't notified ASAP but I feel that's not the big fish to fry). When I confronted him, his reactions honestly scared me. He right away said our other child broke the item that I found and I flat out told him I don't believe him, my trust with him is completely broken and he started his usual sad, "heart broken" cry. But I stuck to my guns and repeated that I didn't believe that. His face just dropped back to normal. From sobbing to stone face in a second. Then after a bit more talk, I started crying, I'm so heartbroken by all of this. And for a split second I saw a faint twisted smirk on his face. He doesn't care how anyone else feels or how he treats others, it's always been on what he wants.I feel I've failed as a parent. I can't help crying. I've tried so hard to be a good parent. I've tried absolutely everything I can think of from positive to negative punishments, almost anything I can think of and none of it ever matters. This whole situation has caused me to become so depressed and my mental health feels at an all time low.We've set up a few punishments for the time being, until further notice:No dressing up for Halloween and no celebration events or activitiesNo more screen time of any typeNo more sweets/desserts/etcBackpack is now being gone through before and after school and no access to itAll toys are being taken out of room (I'm even debating on donating them all.)And that's all I've had the time to place right now. I'm always looking into making a doctors appointment to get the ball rolling on seeing a child psychologist as well as seeing about talking with the school therapist.I'm sorry this is so long and thank you to anyone still reading, I need any piece of advice I can get, I truly appreciate it. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2MGVKoV