My son went from an underachieving 3.0 HS student to a 3.8 college student once he moved out. Can’t help but wonder if I was holding him back somehow.

I don’t get it. He was always really smart, got a 1500 on the SAT, but was also a huge procrastinator. I tried for years to keep him on track by keeping tabs on his grades online and begging him to at least turn in his homework, yet he never responded to it.He wasn’t ever a party animal, either. In fact, he was fairly anti-social. Never went out on fridays, never drank or did drugs. Which is funny, because he’s admitted to me that he’s done both in college.I was never a helicopter parent like other moms i know, nor did I physically punish him or anything of the sort.Our family life was completely fine. I’m married, and we lived in a great, rich person neighborhood.He ended up going to a lower end college (~70% acceptance rate) and right off the bat, started getting all As. After his second year, he transferred to an elite business school and is already having the same success this year with them.I’m at a loss, and don’t want my younger sons to also have such delayed success.I guess what my question is is what are some reasons this phenomenon happens? I’m curious to see if any match our home dynamic via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/366Zmbi