
throwaway because this is just to real. Forgive me if it’s not clean writing I’m still pretty upset.Backstory: We moved in December, my daughter had always been on the edge of “Is something off here?” but teachers/parents have always said she was reacting to her surroundings. Starting school, new baby, moving ... etc even if they happened spread out. She is the middle child.Before we moved I caught my daughter:•Talking to herself in the mirror in the bathroom she sounded like a different person and saying things like “Mommy is a bad girl, she doesn’t love me. Mommy needs to pay” and when I knocked she came out COMPLETELY NORMAL and said “Hey mommy I love you” • She told her dad she wished him and her siblings would die.We moved and her new school was focused on mental health as well as education. She flourished- we got one on ones with the counselor and discussed this previous behavior and they were floored because they had never seen her that way. Counselor said the same thing, a lot of changes at once can disrupt a child. We move forward - nothing crazy happens she makes leaps forward educationally. Fast forward to last night:The kids go to bed at 9, daughter comes over 5+ times for extra hugs which we provide but the last time I was in a bath and said “alright last time, you gotta go to bed now”. Husband is on his computer in the living room sees her go to bed. About an hour and a half goes by (10:30) and husband wants some quick alone time with me before starting games online. Important: We were probably in our room for 15 minutes total. He goes back and plays games suddenly at 12:41 he’s running into our bedroom saying the police are here. Our daughter had snuck out and WALKED TO TARGET. Crossing a major street and taking a fairly long walk. Not only this but she changed from her PJs to street clothes, took my keys, and stole my husbands debit card from his wallet. While the police were there she clung to me, she was crying, and they said she was scared to come home for fear of being in trouble. We don’t abuse our kids, there’s NO form of excessive punishment like belts or thing I grew up with. When the police finished up and left she switched to happy running around and playing. We were in total shock. After the chaos when I finally asked her why, she said “We don’t have enough toys and I wanted to buy us more” My kids generally get things they want consistently because of us and extended family, but will loose things when they don’t take care of their responsibilities.I’m looking into therapy for her, but what can I do at home? I’m at a loss because she seems to understand what she is doing isn’t okay and wants to hide her actions. Sometimes she just doesn’t event seem herself. This definitely doesn’t seem like normal behavior for a 6 year old. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2LuC6wf
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