I need to vent.

TLDR at bottomThis happened today and I’m very upset about it, I am a married father of two daughters with a wonderful wife who I love to pieces. My wife daughters and I currently live with my in laws while our home is being built. I DO NOT get along with my father in law, but because I’m not a nasty person I stay polite and generally ignore what he does and just stay cordial. However today he was playing with my 4 year old daughter who kept saying “stop” “let me go” “put me down” “I don’t want to play” things of that nature. I told her that if she didn’t want to play that she should say “please put me down I don’t want to play” she politely did because she is a sweet gentle girl. His response was “no we are playing” this set me off. I didn’t raise my voice or get angry, but I tried explaining to him that it is NOT healthy to force a little girl down and play with her, I do not want my daughter thinking that is ok because it just is not. He went on to talk about making her think that way would make her a “bitch” and I lost it. My 4 year old daughter is sweet, kind and polite, nothing near rude. I have had enough, I put up with this stuff from him all the time when he insults me because he is an overweight bully who just hates himself. However when it comes to my princess, I won’t stand for it. He proceeded to get upset and go on about how I was raising her wrong. After he put her down my daughter went off to a corner to cry because she thought she was in trouble for having feelings and not wanting to be held down. I had to explain to my 4 year old that it is NOT ok for anyone to FORCE you to do anything...I’m in tears typing this because it hurts me so much knowing that this asshole thinks this is ok. I don’t really know where to go from here because honestly I would HAPPILY pick up and leave here, but we need to save as much money as possible for our new house.. I guess more than anything I just needed to get it out, I talked to my wife and she doesn’t understand why he’s so fucked up but is happy I stood up for my family. I’ve always held my tongue when it came to what he says about me or my wife, because that is what she wants. This just, it fucks with me... Thanks for letting me vent.TLDR My father in law thought it would be ok to hold my 4 year old daughter down and force her to play, I snapped and had to explain that it is NOT ok. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OfVagy