What, if any, rules do you have for your older teens when it comes to dating?

My oldest, who just turned 17, is on her first date. The guy is someone she has known since elementary school and he lives on our block. His little brothers are friends with my boys and our families know each other pretty well. He is a senior and she is a junior, but they are only 5 months apart in age.They spend a lot of time together. They do Speech and Debate together. She goes to his soccer games and he comes to her field hockey games. They have a class together (AP Bio) and spend time at each othrrs houses. That is where one of our issues comes into play.We have never made them leave the door open before. We have 5 kids and they have friends over a lot because once your house reaches a certain volume, a few more kids doesn't hurt. So shutting the door is the only way to get some peace in a loud house. He is the oldest of 4 and my daughter says they aren't allowed to shut the door at his house, so that is probably why they spend more time here. Should we change that rule now?We are very open when it comes to sex and my daughter said that she is no where near ready for that yet. She doesn'y want to go on birth control because she isn't sexually active and doesn't want to worry about the hormonal affects. I am a firm believer in her body, her choice but should we push this more?He drives and has access to a car, but we haven't let her ride in his car yet. They haven't needed to yet. They live close enough to walk to each others houses. I dropped her off at the movies today. They are doing a Halloween event at their school for their club but plan on walking home in a group so they can trick or treat on the way home. He is allowed to have one youth passenger in the car without an adult, but I don't know how much I trust young teen drivers. Should we ease up on this rule now that they are dating?I should make it clear that we trust our daughter a lot. She hasnct given us a reason not to. The young man is polite when he is here. He is coming over tomorrow night to watch the first half of Sunday night football (he is a Cowboys fan and she is an Eagles fan) with us. He is engaged with us when he is here. He doesn't just go up in her room.This is our first experience with dating and we are setting the tone for our younger 4 so I want to get this right. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/33NhLrH