My husband can’t be there for me

I have been talking about wanting to apply for a writing program which would require 2 residencies per year, 2 weeks each. I have told him about how I feel uneasy leaving my daughter without me and he has said he could take vacation weeks on those weeks. Last month he told me out of the blue that he was applying for a program in his field, which also requires residencies on or overlapping with the same dates as the ones I want to go to. Of course he got in. He’s a doctor and his program would help him go up to management so he would make more money. I can’t say the same for my program since writers don’t make much money. Im angry that he doesn’t care that he just dismissed my goals for his own when this has been something I’ve been talking about for the past year. I have put aside my entire life for the past 3 years to raise our daughter and he has done basically nothing but bring home money, which he would do if he wasn’t married. I don’t know if I can handle 2 years of putting aside my goals so he can do his degree. He said if I get into a program he can defer but I don’t even think he’s being honest about that. I think he assumes I won’t get in because I have talked it down but my teachers have told me I have the chops. I don’t know how to go about this. He knows that if I do get in and make him defer, I’ll just feel guilty about it, he relies on my guilt to get what he wants. He always has. I can’t believe he is so selfish. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2oOC49s