Major daycare issues

My daughter is soon to be 3 (in three months). She has always gotten good reports from school, no issues with violence or problems with not listening. We had a conference with her daycare teachers in the spring and they told us she was on track for her age and they weren't concerned about anything.About four months ago she moved from the early 2s class to a new class that is for 2.5-3 year olds and suddenly everything is a huge problem! One of her teachers brought up getting her evaluated for speech. She said they can't understand her and when they ask her questions she can't answer them or starts talking about something else. My daughter can be difficult to understand, she mumbles a lot and speaks very quietly, but as far as I know that isn't weird for toddlers. The teacher also has mentioned that my daughter is having problems with poopy diapers. She is in pull ups but she doesn't pee or poop on the potty yet. Her teachers have tried working with her on using the potty but she isn't interested yet, no big deal. The teacher mentioned that my daughter's pull ups can't hold all the poop, and the poop is leaking and getting on her pants and sometimes her shirt too. They are changing her outfits a few times a week. She recommended going back to diapers instead of pull ups but I don't want to do that because I find that to be babying her.The teacher seemed more concerned with the fact that my daughter will not tell anyone after she poops. She gently mentioned that my daughter will sit or play in her poopy pull up and doesn't seem bothered by it at all until somebody smells it and it makes it harder to clean her after. She said this is unusual and that a 3 year old should let someone know after they poop or get poop on their clothes. As far as I know, isn't that pretty normal for toddlers?? Isn't that why the teachers are there, to watch my daughter and figure out when she needs a change?I'm getting worried that these teachers are holding my daughter to standards that aren't age appropriate. I mentioned all her previous good reports and the conference in the spring and all the teacher said was "Sometimes things aren't an issue at one age but as they get older they become more concerning." But that conference was only 6 months ago!So I came by today to observe her at school, I stayed in the classroom and watched at the window when they were outside. The teachers had all the kids on the playground picking up fall leaves and collecting them. My daughter was grabbing grass out of the ground and brought some over to her teacher. The teacher said "[Daughter], picking grass hurts the ground. Go find some leaves." My daughter again wandered off and picked some grass. She carried handfuls of grass over to the teacher. The teacher said "We are only picking up leafs, [daughter name]. Can you go find a leaf for me." When my daughter went back to picking handfuls of grass the teacher got frustrated and said "Stop pulling the grass, that hurts the ground! Go find a leaf, only leafs!" After that my daughter did find a leaf and brought it. Some of the other kids overheard and were copying the teacher and saying to my daughter "Don't pick grass! Only pick up a leaf!" The teacher didn't stop them, I found it so inappropriate to allow other children to gang up like that.I think the teachers are holding my daughter to standards that aren't age appropriate and now they're letting other kids yell at my kid. I am uncomfortable. Should I go to the director?? Or should I talk to the teachers? Or pull her? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2nI7EFj