'It's easy to just being lazy.' SAHP problem.

Hi, here's me and my attention seeking insecure butt looking for some validation.-----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------Talked to an old friend today. He asked what was I up to and I said, 'Taking care of my kid.' And he proceeded to say, 'Oh, basically you're just being lazy while I am working.' Then I explained that being a SAHP is work also but nah, he just said it is the easiest thing to do.Is he a parent? Sure, he is. He made a random girl pregnant then got a set of twins. They are almost 4 now. The mother takes care of the children the whole week and he takes care of them on weekends. During these weekends, he would have his mother and his other siblings helping out with the children. Do the children stay awake all day? No, they naps, many naps, so many naps. Therefore, he also then said, 'It's the easiest thing to do so it's not a real work.' Cool, mate, cool.Me? Oh, I moved to a country where I couldn't speak the language. I spent three years being a stay-at-home-mother to just a little girl; she's a three years old bundle of chaotic joy. Do I have family here to help? Nah, I don't. It's just me and my partner. Is she active? Ohhh, yes. Does she nap? Naaaaah. She doesn't nap. Do I just take care of her on weekends? Nah, EVERYDAY OF TANTRUMS AND SCREAMING, but also lots of hugs :) When does she wake up? 7am, it's our routine to wake up at 7am. Even if I go to bed at 2am, I still have to wake up at 7am. Do I get to sleep in? Probably 3 times a month while my partner sleeps in just fine most mornings because he works full time now. Do I work? Oh, yes.So, when he said that, I got really REALLY upset. Though, he said it was just to wind me up, it was not funny at all. I am angry because he has it so easy: sleeps in on weekends while his mother takes the children out on walks and his sister takes care of them most times.I am tired. I am already burned out. My mental space has shrunk to a size of a pea due to handling my child's emotional needs. I'm not an emotional person but holy hell, if someone comes up to me and say it's the easiest thing to be a stay at home parent?I just want to stab them in the eye socket -___- via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/33I40uh