This is also a rant I guess because I'm losing it so it's lengthy. I really need some advice concerning my 18 month old. We just had another baby one month ago so I'm thinking that may be part of it, though generally she just doesn't pay attention to him, but she is whining ALL THE TIME.She whines any time we tell her no. We tried to stop saying no and just redirect and give her something else to play with. For example, if she grabs a pen from my desk and takes off running, I take the pen but give her my calculator to play with. But it's literally constant. She whines during her diaper change. She whines about the food we feed her. She whines when she wakes up and when she goes to bed. She whines when I hold her and then to be put down. She whines when I tell her no but also if I offer her something I know she likes like a cookie. She whines when I sit down to hold the baby. If I open a closet door to get something and then shut it, she whines she didn't get to go in. She wants up on the couch the cries to get down. She freaks out like crazy to have a t shirt pulled over her head. You get the idea. Since she isn't fully talking it's so difficult you know? I don't know what she wants, if this is normal, if I'm just awful at this?!?!?!I am a stay-at-home mom and work part-time from home so I rarely get to leave the house. We only have one car right now which my husband uses to go to work and school. So we don't go out a whole lot. I try buying her toys and she prefers more household items like a spatula or something from my office area or kitchen which I generally let her have. But that only keeps her calm for a couple minutes. I thought she was teething so I give her tylenol and cold teething things I've frozen. But that doesn't seem to do anything. I thought she was jealous of the new baby, but she is doing this even when the attention is all on her. I mean I can't even sit on the toilet without her throwing a fit.Is this just how it is? Part of me feels like knowing this is just that terrible two stage would help, but she's not quite two yet. Part of me feels like if I knew other people had gone through it, I wouldn't feel like such a failure. I just want her to be happy but everything I do seems to make her unhappy. Meanwhile, I'm trying to care for a newborn and work. I'm not making time to take care of myself which contributes to my stress of course. My husband is generally either at work or school and at home he has to do homework but will get minimal sleep just to try and take some of the weight off of me. But that's only for a few hours each day, he's mostly gone.I don't know what I'm doing wrong or if I'm doing something wrong. Has anyone else gone through this? Does anyone have any advice or ideas on how I can entertain her? Is this just how it is? We live in a very small town where there's not much to do anyway and the parks are kind of crap and plus I don't want to take my newborn out much if I can help it. Plus, husband doesn't get home until late so it's too dark to do things most of the time. Any activities that are cheap and will make her happy/keep her occupied? I just feel like I'm doing it wrong.PLEASE HELP!!! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2MYGPoL
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