Need help troubleshooting our toddler's bedtime routine - losing my patience!

My 2.5 yo is a spirited whirligig. Most of the time we're able to set logical or natural consequences that help curb some of her wilder behaviors and (just as importantly) keep us feeling semi-sane. But for the last couple of months her bedtime routine in particular has become a minefield of difficulty, and I'm finding myself losing my temper in ways that are pretty counterproductive. I've learned a ton from frequenting this subreddit, and if anyone has any suggestions for how to deal, on a practical level, with toddler resistance to bedtime routine, I am all ears.​Part of what's frustrating is that we had a solid, effective bedtime routine that really worked: clean up toys, brush teeth, use the potty, get on pjs, read two books, sing two songs, and down to bed. We sleep trained early on, and until a couple of months ago we could zip through the routine like magic—about 20 minutes from beginning to end—and she would fall right asleep. (I know, we were very lucky.)​Now she fights every stage: hitting us, grabbing my glasses and throwing them on the floor, throwing her toothbrush, licking the bathroom floor (disgusting, yes), trying to stick her head in the toilet, you name it. Particularly when she's smacking us in the face (and grinning while she does it), my husband and I find it really hard to keep our cool. Our current consequences have little effect on her. If she's just stalling, she can lose her turn to brush her teeth, lose her chance to pick her pj's, lose both her books and both her songs, and it barely fazes her. If she's resorted to physical violence, we give her a brief time out or else kind of grimly wrestle her into her pajamas and dump her in the crib, whereupon she sobs like her heart is going to break.​Do you have any advice? Are there different consequences we could adopt? Different strategies for moving things along? Anything to help us not lose our cool, or our minds?​I'm hoping that after Daylight Savings Time comes to an end things will be a little easier, as we'll be putting her to bed a half hour earlier than now, and it's possible that some of her manic energy comes from being tired out at the end of the day. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2HiYoyL