Husband Always Gets To Sleep In - Never My Turn

My husband never works during the winter months every year. Since he is home he sleeps in everyday until 1/2pm. He stays up late until 3/4am watching movies. I'm a stay at home mom but everyday I'm up at 6:30am until midnight. On weekends I ask my husband if it's possible he can watch the kids (18 months and 7 year old) so I can sleep in. Everytime I ask he says "oh I didn't sleep last night I'm tired, I need to sleep today". Or if I wake him up during the week earlier than 1/2pm he'll count that as "waking up really early" so weekend comes and I am not allowed to sleep in. We've had this battle since our 7 year old was little and I just started going to sleep really early so come morning I wouldn't be tired or ask my husband for help because when he shuts me down it invigorates me. We are both parents who should contribute equally so if I'm begging to sleep in for an extra hour or two on a weekend morning am I except once in a while to be allowed such luxury. It just drives me nuts that I'm obligated to constantly wake up early but he can sleep until he feels content to wake up which I don't even know what that feels like. I almost lost my mind from sleep deprivation when our youngest was a baby and still he wouldn't take some responsibility and let me sleep. Some days I can't sleep and it's hard to get out of bed but I do because my kids come first. My husband has no idea what the is like and it enrages me that he is supposed to have this lax lifestyle while I do absolutely everything else. If I ask to sleep in for an hour, why does that have to start a fight? Why can't he for ONCE say "sure you can sleep in this time, no hard feelings I got this!"? I think he knows that if he causes tension I will back off as to not cause issues in front of the kids but it drives me insane. If I sleep early, he and I won't get our alone time but that is the only way I can preserve my sanity by waking up early and feeling okay. Ideally I'd love if Saturday/Sunday was my day to look forward to and know that I can relax that morning. My version of sleeping in is until 10/11am not 1/2pm like him. I just hate how he can't suck it up and do something for someone other than himself, but he would rather start an argument in front of our kids in order to get out of it and get what he wants. I literally NEVER get what I want or to truly relax. If only we could switch places for a week maybe he would understand the life of a mom. Sorry for the long rant. I guess I'm wondering how other parents handle sleeping in (if they do at all?) Do you alternate? Do dad's offer to help get kids to school some days or is it SAHM's job regardless? Any advice?Thanks! via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2tNVmKK