Like the title says, my son hates it when I (his mom) sing. This has been a quirk of his since he was two. If I sing to him while holding him or playing together he will scream random words at me to get me to shut up or try shove his hand in my mouth.I usually try singing kids songs to him (wheels on the bus, Raffi, ect) and limit it to times when we're standing around bored ( like waiting at the bus stop) or playing together but it makes him upset. I also sing to myself a lot while doing chores and if my son is in the room he shuts me down quick. I admit it kinda hurts my feelings. I feel like there is a lot of bonding and learning we are missing out on, my son has a speech delay so I wanted muisc to be a tool to encourage him to talk more. He himself rarely sings but loves listening to kid music.I sang to him a lot as a baby/toddler and it used to be a calming technique for tantrums. I'd sing the Daniel Tigers songs (when you feel so mad that you want to roar, take a deep breath and count to 4). And he'd take a breath and calm down. Then one day he wouldn't have it and my singing seems to only antagonize him. I sometimes wonder if he associates my singing to these times and it has ruined it for him.The only exception is he let's me sing him his goodnight lullaby when I tuck him in, so that's still allowed for now at least.For the last year I've pretty much given up. On occasion a song will slip out (old habits are hard to break) but I only get about two notes in before he screams over me so I quit because I don't want him to think I'm teasing him.Is this just a weird phase? Should I continue to keep mouth shut or should I just sing on? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hShpK1
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