"Inclusive" policies at daughter's public elementary school are getting her in trouble

My daughter is in 3rd grade and has always been a pretty good kid, though a bit of an alpha who've I've encouraged to be independent. In the last three weeks she's got three referrals, more than she had received in the last two years, and they've all involved this other girl, who I'll call Jane.My daughter has her own group of friends and Jane wants to play with my daughter at recess, but my daughter doesn't want to play with her because she's mean, my daughter says. My daughter got in trouble last year for not playing (being "inclusive") with other kids on the playground.I've always told her that if someone was being mean or rude, she didn't have to play with them. She wasn't obligated to play with everyone, but apparently this is in contrast with school policy. This other girl, Jane, runs over crying to the recess lady and complains that my daughter is being mean and not playing with her and my daughter gets in trouble. This has happened three times now in three weeks. I've spoken to other kids who have seen this and they confirm that my daughter nicely told Jane that she didn't want to play.I've met with the vice principal and the principal and they've told me that my daughter is in violation of their "Inclusive" policies and that she needs to play with all kids.I understand that all children should have an opportunity to be included, but how in the world can a school enforce a policy like this? My daughter is being made to feel like a bad person because she's getting in so much trouble just because she doesn't want to play with a mean kid.This makes me furious to the point of wanting to pull her from this school, but there really isn't another reasonable option. Is this a policy that can be fought? Or am I on the wrong side of this or misunderstanding something? How prevalent are policies like this? We're in a very liberal city in Oregon, by the way. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2lh0vcS