"You could have X,Y,Z... but your MOMMY says no". Anybody else cringe when family throw out that type of line?

It happens on my side and my husbands side. A family member will just 'divine' that my young child wants tea (he's not even 2 yet). "Oh, he wants tea mommy, can he have some?". No, no my child can't have tea (that's filled with 2 cups of sugar and caffeine, just 2 hours before bed). Family to child "Oh, you want tea, I'm sorry, I would give you some but MOMMY says no". How can my child even know he wants tea.. when he's never even had it!? You could literally be drinking pig brains and my kid is going to reach for the cup because an adult has something and he's interested in it. Am I supposed to hand over a sip of wine (as if though I ever get to have wine, but you get my point) just because my kid reaches for it with big eyes?My in laws have literally said "oh, you wont let him have ice cream, you are depriving that child of a childhood". How tha F**K is me trying to avoid obesity (which runs in my husbands family) depriving my child????During my last visit in-law Grandpa would literally pick my toddler up first, THEN grab some cream filled donut and eat it right in his face. Ignore the fact they know I've been struggling with hunger/gestational diabetes and we are there like a whole hour, can't you shove your donut in your face once we leave> But that aside... why literally eat the F*in donut IN MY CHILD'S FACE???? I decided after my last visit with family that I'm flipping the dialogue back on whatever family member throws me under the bus. Family Member- "Mommy says no, or I would give you a bite". From now on my response "Grandpa knows you don't eat that baby, yet he's holding you and eating it right in front of you, I'm sorry paw paw's a meanie head". Luckily my kid is still pretty young, but them doing this shit when he's like 4 and more aware, my kid is really going to see me as the bad guy, I'm mad just thinking about it in the future, hah. Anybody else's family like this? Have you been able to indirectly 'untrain' this stupid freaking habit? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2OR7RkC