Why should I be made to feel guilty for a “night off”

I’m (19F) and my boyfriend (20m) have a 8mo daughter.I work a full time job, part time job, and go to school full time. He works a part time and full time job. We have our own apartment and only work “so much” now so she doesn’t remember us being away at work and so that our savings can grow, we’re planning to move out of state and buy a home in the next few years.He does great with the baby, and is an amazing father. But he works third shift, so nights I’m alone and up with the baby. She sleeps most of the night, when she’s normal she’s up once and that’s it. But she’s teething and mostly will cry for a second while she tosses and turns to get re-comfortable. I still wake up and check her tho.My mom has been begging for a sleepover and throws hints. She always babysits if we need her too and helps in anyway she can. She does live only four minutes down the road.We never had a need for her to babysit overnight but I’m having surgery soon and know it’d make recovery for me and dealing with whatever the baby needs a million times easier if my mom or someone else were to have the baby for the night.Every time I bring it up, my daughters father makes me feel like a bad mom for not wanting her with me. But I’m not going out to party, or hangout with anyone. Even during finals I have her. I’m getting surgery! I shouldn’t be made to feel bad about wanting to recover smoothly.After many arguments and conversations,I told him that the baby will be going to my moms, who since the baby was born he’s developed a nice relationship with as his mom wasn’t involved in his life until finding out I was pregnant and still only comes around when convenient for her, unless he decides to take off from work.It’s not that he doesn’t trust her or my dad but rather what I feel more of a control thing.Has anyone else had to deal with anything similar when it’s come to family having the baby overnight or is there a better way I should deal with this?I should add, it’s on Tuesday and my mom works. I’ll have the baby back Wednesday during the day, her god mom will bring me to surgery and will have baby at my place during the days.Tl;dr Boyfriend making me feel bad for wanting my mom to have baby for a night due to me having surgery and him working nights. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Tt8pzC