My brother in law is a bit of a loner. He's in his late 20s, never had a gf (or bf or anyone), a brilliant computer programmer who works from his apt, has no real life friends, & is morbidly obese (painting a picture so I feel that last bit is relevant). He has a robust online video game life (WoW, etc.) & Is also "obsessed" w anime & owns dozens of dolls he exhibits through out his apt, all of young anime/manga females in the 'Sailor Moon' age range, all wearing skimpy-ish, school girl outfits. Overall he's a pretty quiet dude who often keeps to himself. He (like my wife & their other sibling) is also a bit of a spoiled brat who will withdraw from family interaction if he doesn't get his way. Ok, all that to say I don't feel completely comfortable w him around my 9 month old daughter. He has done nothing to warrant this; I may be over reacting, but, the way he is relatively cut off from social interactions, the lack of romantic interest, & his general "I want what I want when I want it" attitude gives me a lot of negative vibes. Bringing this up in passing to my wife was Instantly shutdown w a "don't dare bring this up again" attitude. A major concern for me tho is, he has found himself @ my in laws house more often than not when we drop my daughter off so they can babysit. Would you push the issue & risk a large family blow up over a feeling? I wish I could just monitor any interaction but she spends @ least 15hrs/wk @ grandparents while I'm @ work & mom is busy out of necessity.tl;dr my brother in law is a loner, computer life only person who collects dolls, & gives off an uncomfortable vibe. I am concerned about him being around my daughter & don't know how to communicate this w my wife & potentially her parents or if I even should. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2tT2zta
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