[Update] What would you do? Son’s friend consistently mean and manipulative

See original post hereWanted to give an update for anyone curious...I reached out to Kevin’s mom the day after Andy’s birthday party to explain what happened in more detail and to let her know I want to let the boys work out the problems on their own. She said that I did the right thing by sending Kevin home and that she is working with him on not saying mean things to his friends. She says he gets embarrassed, then lashes out at other people. Basically it’s behavior she is familiar with and is trying to help him improve. She said she took away Kevin’s iPad privileges until the time the party would have been over. He wanted to apologize and go back, but she said no. I think she handled the situation well, understanding that her son needed to learn a lesson here. He cried and was upset, which of course was difficult, but she made the right call by letting him fully experience the consequences of his actions.The next day at school, Kevin apologized to Andy - on his own, which he almost NEVER does. Then after soccer practice he apologized to my husband who was there with Andy. His mom did have to remind him, but he did it willingly, which again is a big step for this child.Andy and Kevin are back to normal now at school. We talked to Andy about what good friends do and don’t do. We reminded him that he doesn’t have to play with Kevin if he doesn’t want to, especially when Kevin is mean to him.My husband and I talked, and we agreed that from now on if Kevin comes to our house, we will clearly lay out the expectations that he has to be kind. If he gets mean, he will go home. We will see how that plays out next time.Thanks to everyone for your advice! I don’t think this problem is over by any means, but I feel better knowing his mom is aware and working with him, and having a plan for handling these situations at home in the future. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2pguRvo