My 14 year old son announced he is gay.

Sunday, late evening, my son wanted to show my wife and I a "household safety" presentation. My wife and I have been married for over 15 years with no major drama. As always my wife is excited to see our son try to impress us. As always I'm doing my best to be supportive but acting impatient. "C'mon, this best be good, it's bedtime." Talks of strange noises in the house might be entertaining to my wife and kids but now it seems to go a little far. Here we are. My wife and I on the couch with my son's laptop connected to the TV. My son logs me out of my Google account and logs himself in to access his Google presentation in Google Drive. The first two slide have bullet points of safety issues and recommendations. The third slide states that he's bisexual but prefers boys over girls. "Is he joking" was my first thought. My son gets really serious and makes it clear that he likes boys.Once I came to a clear understanding I express that I understand him and that I'm flattered that he would tell us and he's no different, nothing has changed. My wife on the other hand is still a devoted Catholic (prays rosaries every day and goes to mass weekly). I have been agnostic for the past 10 years. My wife and I met when I was doing missionary work for the church in the Dominican Republic. She's always been frustrated with my leaving religion. My wife begins to hit (not physically) my son with qualifying questions such as "how do you know, what took place, don't you think so and so is pretty?" I was impressed with my son's answers. It seemed he anticipated these questions. Later my wife would take my son aside in an attempt to talk him out of it. She comes to our room crying and cries fro hours until she sleeps in my arms.Even though I've been open to being gay I didn't have much control over my mind. I'm socked to how unprepared I was for this. For the past two days I've been having flashbacks from when he was a baby. I'm scared and I feel like a big pussy, an asshole. My intelligence knows what to do but my instincts are not taking it well.Curios to hear from parents or others about similar experiences. Thanks. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zsDTLE