My four year old never wants to come home and it makes me feel like I’m failing as a mother

This has been an issue for a few months now, but it’s getting progressively worse.My four year old would move in with her grandma (my mom) if my husband and I let her. I work from home and my husband has flexible work hours, so she gets plenty of love, attention and play time with us while she’s home with us. We’re not super strict, however she doesn’t have free rein like she does at grandma’s house when she’s home. She is well loved and in a very good environment while she’s home....so what the hell am I doing wrong? My husband says he was the same as a kid, but I wasn’t. So why does my kid never want to be home with me?Tonight was my breaking point. She stayed at our house for the first time in four days yesterday, but we had family visiting this afternoon so we went to grandma’s house to visit with them. When it came time to come home my little one cried to the point of gagging when I asked if she was ready to come home. I try so hard to not let it hurt my feelings...but it sucks. I feel like I’m failing as a mom and I don’t even know what I’m doing wrong.Any advise or parents who have experienced this? via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2plulfm