My husband and i decided early on in the summer that if she didnt like the class, or if she felt overwhelmed or it seemed like she wasnt ready for it (its a full day pre-k from 8am to 2pm and she's never been in a school setting prior to this) that we would let her drop out of the program. The only real reason we both wanted her in pre-k was for her to get out of the house and socialize since i can tell that she is sometimes lonely and needed more girls her age to play with. (i dont know anyone around the neighborhood with little girls her age unfortunately) We never told her of course that we are considering this an optional thing she can leave if she wants to. She thinks its a mandatory thing.I'm a stay at home mom and it really doesnt make a difference to me whatsoever if she stays home another year. I never went to pre-k and i didnt have problems in school and neither did my husband. My oldest went to half day pre k (again purely for socialization) but i couldn't get my daughter into the same program unfortunately since she got put on a wait list. All she had was either full day or nothing.The first week to my surprise she was beaming from ear to ear at drop off and then at pick up. The teachers say she is a joy to have around. She knows how to use the bathroom on her own. She says it makes her feel grown up to use the bathroom and wipe herself and put her pants back up lol. She would come home singing songs that they taught her. She even made a little friend who apparently is her "best friend" and they play together in the school playground, eat lunch together, even sleep beside each other at nap time. She took to pre-k better than i ever imagined! I was so happy for her.Cut to today. Out of the blue im handing her off to the teacher who greeted her nicely and she starts making a face like shes about to cry. I ask her whats wrong as shes holding her teachers hand and she goes "i just want one more hug" and rushes towards me to hug me. I hug her really tight and after that it just snowballed into her crying and saying "i dont want to stay can i leave with you today?" The teacher tried to calm her down and tell her they were headed to the park today. But she wasnt having any of it. She was just crying and a total mess and refusing to let the teacher to hold her hand again. The teacher had to go tend to the other kids and i just took her back home. While at home i sit with her quietly in our recliner and ask her whats going on. She very sadly starts giving me an entire list of things she hates. "i just hate nap time, i dont like sleeping there! I didnt get naps when i was 3...why now that im 4 im getting naps like im a baby?" "and kids dont share there, im always getting things taken away from me" "and teachers yell when its nap time because they dont let me do anything else when i try to get up" "i miss you when im there" So then i go "what about Oliva? Shes your best friend she will miss you" "I dont care about Olivia i dont care if i dont see her no more!" "Did you and her have a fight?" "Nooo...i just dont want to go back. I dont want to go today, i dont want to go tomorrow, i dont want to go anymore..."Ugh...so thats basically the jist of it. There's a parent teacher conference this week. I believe on friday. Till then im trying to figure out if its worth it to force her to go because i would like to talk to her teacher and ask if theres something that might have changed her mind since she was so happy and eager to go on previous days. Just put in some effort to fix this because she seemed so happy before and i think in the long run will regret leaving. Or if i should just keep my word about letting her drop out and let her stay home. Any advice would be great. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NR23aA
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