Update to this. https://ift.tt/2I7CFbt summary: I am Korean American and had a big fight with Korean in laws about them constantly giving my two year old dangerous things like mints and razors even though Ive asked them many times not to. I am currently at my in-laws for a five day major Korean holiday. Only two more days to go!I know this might not be the best subreddit but I cant update on the other subreddit since it hasnt been 48 hours yet but I really need some mental support right now. Thank you in advance.Anyways I’m still at my in-laws and since everyone is giving me the silent treatment over yelling at my BIL and my son is asleep Im bored and lonely.We had the fight Saturday early afternoon. That night my husband went out to go drink with his hometown friends. Sunday morning (today), my husband unilaterally decided to take my son to the zoo with his friend and friend’s son and refused to let me go with them. I didn’t want to start another fight so I just let that go. I had nothing better to do today so I just walked around my in-laws’ city until I found a bookstore and read some books on parenting and cooking for the next six hours because I rarely get free time like this so I thought i might as well make good use of it. Then i walked back to my in-laws after my husband texted me he was coming back home. Husband dropped off son without a word and then left to go drink with his friends again without telling me. I only found out because I overheard him telling my MIL while I was doing the dishes that my MIL told me to do. Was kind of surprised my husband broke silent treatment to text me that but now i realize its because he wanted me to watch our son while he goes drinking.That was pretty eye opening for me. If my husband had a fight with my family I wouldnt just leave him there alone to take care of our son and go drinking wih my friends two nights in a row. Even if my husband was in the wrong I’d realize how much it sucks for him to be ganged up on in a country he doesnt have much support in.Everyone in this family treats me with so much disrespect but they constantly tell me that they are so respectful to me and its me who's the problem. I always knew I wasn't in the wrong but now I feel it 100%. No way Im ever going to apologize to anyone in this family for this particular incident. Im so glad Ive finally held my ground.Unfortunately there’s not much I can do now. I wish I could grab my son and take a train back home but that would add too much fuel to the fire. I’m just going to bide my time and focus on getting to be more independant financially. I already work part time doing translations after my son goes to sleep so I might look into getting more work or something.Not sure what else to do. Divorce is going to be hard since my husband refuses to give up custody and I dont want to give up my son either. Husband wants to just be a showroom couple and stay together for our son. I’m leaning towards that too because a marriage counselor told me theres no way i would get custody of my son given that it would be a contested divorce and me wanting a divorce for no legitimate legal reason means husband gets to choose custody. Not sure how true that is though.Tldr Had a fight with in-laws. Husband abandoned me two nights in a row to hang out with his friends. Had an epiphany and realized I deserve better than this. Not sure how to proceed via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2zoT20g
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