I have a spoiled brat on my hands and my wife wants to send her back to her home country to fix her before it is too late. Should we?

My family and I have a very privileged life – au pairs, chauffeurs, high-end cars, etc. My wife and I appreciate it greatly, but I’m afraid my daughter (age 9 – let’s call her Angela) does not. We live in an extremely wealthy neighborhood amongst some pretty high profile people.When Angela was born, I wanted the best of the best for her – the best schools, trips, birthdays etc. My wife had always been really reluctant to do all of what we did for her – my wife had a very impoverished childhood in the Philippines and has a strong work ethic that she wants our children to have. My (very, very wrong) view, at the time, was that since Angela was just a child, we didn’t need to worry about that quite yet. We never had a problem with Angela until she was 7 – that was when we had our second daughter.Angela went from a sweet (and spoiled, but sweet!) little girl to a bit of a brat. Angela refuses to clean up after herself because her friends at school all have several nannies - we haven’t had a maid since she was 2, which was when my wife put a stop to that. She pretends to not understand how to do her homework, saying “I’ll just find a rich man to take care of me, just like Mommy,” which is completely untrue – the only thing my wife relied on me for was getting out of the Philippines and paying for school (my wife is now a nurse anesthetist and is GREAT at her job, so I have no clue where Angela might have gotten that from).She has become more and more demanding too - she begs for new clothes and stuff all the time. At one point, Angela even told her mother that she hated her after my wife refused to plan her 9th birthday party the way she wanted it – my daughter wanted pretty much her entire grade level (sans a few people that she said she “hated,” which my wife quickly put a stop to). Because of this little outburst, my wife decided to cancel her birthday party entirely and forced her to spend the day reading to some kids in the hospital – it was a little harsh in my eyes but it seemed to get the point across.The final straw was when Angela stole one of my credit cards while she went to get her nails done with some friends – instead of a simple nail trip, she treated them to a spa day. Angela seems to have no real concept money, either and couldn’t understand why we were so mad. My wife was livid – the behaviors I’ve just described are just the tip of the iceberg. I feel pretty angry too, but we’re disagreeing on what to do. My wife has been thinking about sending Angela to the Philippines to live with her sister for a while. I don’t feel too great about sending her there – the crime, the potential for disease, etc., - and I think a grounding (no shopping, no extra curriculars, no tv/computer) for a year ought to do.Any advice on this (along with keeping our younger daughter from becoming like Angela) would be greatly appreciated!! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2xosHvh