Daughters grandparents seem very uninterested in her.

Some BG: My daughter is two and a half. Her father(29) and I(24) split when she was six months old due to him quitting his job, not telling me, and therefore getting us evicted on Christmas. Due to some concerning behavior from him, we do supervised visitation with him. I usually meet up with him in a public place (the mall, park, etc) a few times a week so that they can spend time with each other. We generally get along and this arrangement works out pretty well.My ex’s parents enable him. His employment status is no longer my business or my concern since we are not together and he pays child support on time (I think he gets the money from his grandma) but I feel this is relevant to the entire situation. He has not gotten another job since he quit the one he had when we were together. He lives in his parents basement and spends most of his time smoking weed.His parents have two other grandchildren from my ex’s brother. One was born a year before my daughter, one was born a year after. They are very involved in the other grandchildren’s lives. They go to sporting events, have them over for sleepovers, pick them up from school and all that. When it comes to my daughter, they seem pretty uninterested. Her grandma (I’ll call her Susan) is always saying how much she misses her and is always commenting on the pictures of her that I post on social media. For a while, I was taking her over to their house about every other week at my ex’s request so that they could spend time with her. However, once it became clear to me that they would not put in any effort, I cut back. They also have smoked around her even though I’ve asked them not to, and their house is very dirty and has black mold, so it’s a health concern. I’ve made it clear to them that they’re welcome at my home to visit my daughter any time, and that we would be happy to meet them somewhere for dinner. Neither of those things have happened. I don’t really care that much, my daughter is very close to my parents and they’re very good to her, so she’s got one great set of grandparents.However, my ex is constantly pestering me to take my daughter to their house to visit, or to go to their other granddaughters soccer games so that they can see her. I just make excuses usually.Onto the current issue. Yesterday, my ex and I had plans to meet up at the mall so he could see our daughter. He informed me that his mother would be with him because she wanted to visit with our daughter as well. She hasn’t seen her in probably two months. When my daughter and I get there, I get her a meal from the food court and we all sit together as she eats. Susan hardly talks or interacts with her. The mall has a children’s play area which is enclosed and has benches around the inside so that you can sit and watch your child while they play. We let her play for an hour. Instead of sitting and watching her grandchild play, Susan chose to sit alone in the food court and stare at the wall. The play area is maybe five feet away from where she was sitting. Sure, she could have just been having a bad day or not feeling well, but her being “distant” has been a common theme during visits. It hasn’t been this blatant though.I don’t want my child around these people. I know how hurtful it can be to be around someone who is supposed to love you but they’re just distant and uninterested. I also don’t see the point in taking my personal time to keep up this charade with them. So what do I do? I was supposed to take her over to their house next week in her Halloween costume and so they could give her the Halloween basket they got her. I don’t see the point. I don’t want to. I don’t want to take her over there on thanksgiving or Christmas either because they will ask me to. Am I over reacting? If not, should I tell them how I feel or just continue saying “no” when they request visits? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hWjgxs