When my son was 9 years old he was sexually abused by his female 22 year old babysitter. She convinced him to hide the abuse through various methods, most notably saying that it was his fault and that telling people would cause significant distress to me. This was not a small thing for my son as I was going through a rough divorce with his father at the time. The abuse continued on for roughly 2 years until we moved to another state for my work. I personally didn't find out about what happened until the babysitter was arrested for abusing other children in her care.My son was 15 at this point, doing well in school but lacking in friends. He has always been rather shy and nervous so I didn't pay attention to many of the warning signs I should have. I immediately put him in therapy and he has slowly improved over the past 2 years. While he is overall happier and more outgoing, I know that he is still affected by what happened to him.At the age of 17 he has never had a romantic relationship or a close relationship of any kind other than with me. The most troubling thing is recently he told me he doesn't enjoy masturbation, porn, or any sexual activity, becoming uncomfortable around people showing too much skin. I told him there is nothing wrong with finding women or men attractive, but he politely brushed me off. I'm afraid if I don't do something now he will go the rest of his life alone and hating his body. What should I do? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2iUd50w
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