Video games for the RAD and DMDD child

I have 4 kids with one on the way. Ages are 0,1,7,7,11. One of my 7 year olds has dmdd and rad. Reactive attachment disorder and disruptive mood dysregulation disorder.Video games have been a great prize or form of motivation for all of my kids. Let’s call DMDD and rad child “T”. T is 7 and has started getting very addicted. He struggles with his behavior and hasn’t had nearly as much time as other kids with video games. So basically he isn’t playing that much as it is... he is obsessed with video games.He spent a month in treatment centers and is on medication and seeing an intensive home therapist team 3x a week. I have myself and siblings in therapy as well and will be addressing this with his therapist when we see her on Tuesday. Until then, I’d love some advice.Tonight T was sick to his stomach and wouldn’t eat food because he wanted video games so badly. He started screaming and crying and begging and pleading with me. This lasted for over a half hour until i assumed he walked away to use his coping skills but instead he went and turned the computer on and started playing. A huge fuck you to me ya know. I have been nothing but patient with T. I didn’t lose my tempter. We talked. I used the skills I’ve learned through treatment centers and therapists/suggested books to read.T has told me that if I remove video games from the house he has no reason to live here anymore and will go back to the hospital (treatment center). I asked if he was planning to do something to land himself there and he said no. This especially hurt since he’s put us through so much hell and I’ve been there for him so much and he doesn’t appreciate it. I’m not a reason for him to stay. I should add that I’m adoptive mom (dad is bio dad but didnt get T until T was a month old and Ts mom had a mental illness and sadly severe abuse and neglect happened..). Anyway, dad works a lot and I’ve been the main person helping him through this and being there for him. It’s hard to hear that I’m not a reason to stay. He told me today that he doesn’t want time with me. Just video games. It’s rough. Anyway, I don’t react... I know this is his illness talking.Okay so my advice question... clearly T needs a break from video games. Something has to give. I have other kids that can play without and issues. T may feel singled out because he cannot play games. This is something I’m trying to avoid. I need to advice. Lying isn’t an option.. it’ll eventually come out and things will be much worse. T has gotten very violent before and Meds have helped a lot.Anyway, please advise. Bonus if you have a child with DMDD or RAD or both... or if you know how to advise around those disorders. He’s not your typical kid and I guess that’s why we’re at such a loss.TLDR; how to possibly take video games away from one child and not others without causing too much trouble. Child in question has DMDD and RAD. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2fpIozn