12 month old having tantrums all day long. what do I even do with this?

She was always a calm, not crying type of baby. We got a lot of comments from family asking if she even cried at all (which obviously yes. She does cry just like every other kid).Then she turned 9 months and realized she had free will. This was the start of tantrums. I used a lot of distractions to get through it... But now that doesn't work anymore. It's like she's wise to my tricks.... And she is STUBBORN. If she wants to play with an outlet (which obviously I can't ever cave on) she will repeatedly go after that outlet for an hour, quit for 15 mins pretending to want something else (she glances at it and me while playing), then go back to the outlet for a half an hour. Literally. I can use toys, foods, music.. nothing will distract her from her goal, and she will scream like a banshee until she gets it.When she finally throws in the towel, she still hasn't forgotten. She will wine and moan for HOURS. I mean literally HOURS of this meeeeehhhhh noise. I don't know how she has the stamina. Im losing my damn mind. I just want her to shut up.On top of that, almost anything can piss her off. Pick her up without asking permission first? Banshee. Give her a bottle when she didn't want one? Banshee. Don't give her a bottle when she wants one? Banshee. Try and give her a toy when she wants something else? Banshee. Every single diaper change? Raging banshee.My husband says I should throw earplugs in my ears and ignore her... But I would feel like a bad parent. She is just 12 months old.... But at the same time I'm a stay at home mom and I don't have enough patience for this. I really wish I did, but I don't. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2hhxWdX