I've been thinking about my husbands daughter moving in with us for about three months now. She has just finished high school and decided to take a break from school before she decides when and where she wants to go to college. Of course my husband is ecstatic about her moving in with us. He feels like he wasn't around much in her life so now he has the opportunity to do so. I don't blame him. I'm all in, but have some predictions how everything will change in our family and our living conditions. My husband and I have a 2.5 year old son and a 1 year old daughter. I'm a SAHM, So I do and take care of mostly everything around the house. His job takes him out of town for many months of the year but he's always home on the weekends or unless we have an event to attend. The other most part of the year he works around town, so he's home everyday. He's currently working out of town so his daughter would be spending a lot of time with me and our babies at home. He also has another daughter age 13, she will be living with her mom and step father. But currently is considering of also moving in with us. It's not decided yet. Over the 6 years that we've been married, I haven't seen his daughters do any house chores. They don't clean up their own messes or help with anything. I don't expect them to since I know my house better and will clean it up anyways. Most of the time they would come over for a few weeks at a time then leave. Most of their time spent is on their electronic devices or out with friends. There are many things and ways where I don't disagree how he disciplines his daughters. He knows where I stand with our two babies and is proud of me the way I do things around the house and disciplining our babies. He basically lets them do whatever they want. And now that the oldest daughter is moving in with us, I don't know how to go about it. I've talked to my husband about putting in house rules and chores for his eldest daughter to do while she'll be living with us. He doesn't agree with me, that he'll be trying to work on their bond and make up for all that time he missed in her life. It means that I will have another person to clean up after in the house. I barely have any time for myself with two toddlers to run after, cook, clean, laundry, gardening, outside cleaning, and a cat to take care of (I really don't like cats, but gave in). In a way, I feel like he doesn't care enough for me. That I might not be doing enough. On a side note, his ex expects me to teach her things like cooking and cleaning, life lessons, and what I see appropriate. I need some helpful advice. Any advice is appreciated. What kind of chores or house rules are acceptable for an 18 year old? How can I make things easier on myself? How can I help my step daughter? Has anyone had a similar situation in their life? I'm overthinking about what and how things will be. Any input would help. Thank you kindly. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2ulDhT4
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