Boundary Setting with Divorced Grandparents, specifically around holidays.

Our first child was due YESTERDAY. He's also going to be the first grandkid on both sides. My wife and I are very excited to be parents. He's also going to be the first grandchild on both sides, so our grandparents are all thrilled to pieces.My parents are divorced, and my wife is estranged from her father (but not mother), so we have 3 sets of grandparents to 'deal with'. We all get along, and the grandparents have all been very helpful and supportive of both of us. However, holidays are a logistical nightmare. Christmas in particular. Every year, we are expected to make stops at all of the grandparents houses between Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. We hate it, and there is no way we're doing it with a 14 week old baby.This year we want to have an 'open house' on Christmas. Essentially, on Christmas day (or Christmas Eve, if that's easier for other people), folks can just come by our house, sit with the baby, exchange gifts if they want to, have drinks, hang out for a bit, and leave. Its low-stress for everybody, and everybody still gets to see us and the baby.Our siblings are going to love it. Nobody has to drive all over creation, and we all get to see each other in one place. Its glorious. But, I can already tell that this is going to be a problem with the Grandparents. My mom is very into her 'traditions', and I know that she is going to try and bargain her way into some sort of special consideration. My MIL is a bit of a doormat, but she can also be super passive aggressive. Also, even though my parents have been divorced for 20 years, they are still weird around each other. Its not that they can't stand to be in the same room with each other, they are just super awkward. But seriously, if they want to spend time with their grandchild, they are going to have to get over themselves eventually.At the end of the day: none of this is our problem. Its our child's first Christmas, and we get to do what we are comfortable with. How do you guys set boundaries with your parents? How do you avoid feeling guilty about setting boundaries? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2xiujYt