This is all my own observations and not things she said herself, so I just forst of all want to let it be known she's not just trying to seem like a hipster that likes old stuff.My daughter Amanda is beyond her years in a way that is becoming alarming. She only likes one or two of today's artists and primarily listens to music from as far back as the 1920's. She likes history and science, fashion from basically any decade besides this one, and just has an overall mindset that I would definitely consider beyond her years, almost wise.For example, she commented the other day that she was "sick of seeing these idiots walking around at school holding hands. Do they have any idea how few relationships last out of highschool? God, they're so naive." And she isn't just saying that for my benefit so I think she's a saint. She openly has expressed her feelings for boys before but is also clear she doesn't see a point in dating until her senior year atleast. She has actually been asked out and turned them down. She's also made comments like "Why are kids today so rude? I was at ___ and (girl from her grade) was all loud and didn't even say thank you when someone held open the door for her."Her view of the world is one I'd consider extremely advanced. Her political views don't align with the popular ones her peers have, and there's no pushing from me or her stepfather on what she should think. We haven't even had to chastise her on them because there's nothing wrong with her political views or otherwise. She actually helped me with advice her my 3 year old daughter, her sister, on how to get her to behave in the car. That's a story for another time but the point is a 16 year old has parenting intution. Wtf.She doesn't follow trends or wear makeup and basically just likes what she likes, and she is secure enough in herself to go to school in outdated sweaters and skirts. I don't usually see a problem with it but she's become almost condescending to her classmates. I really don't mean to come across like I'm tooting my own horn for my fantastic raising of my kid. I'm not doing that, I'm actually concerned because she is more like a 30 year old than 16. I could deal with that if it wasn't for the fact she has no friends and frequently talks shit about the kids at school, though as far as I know she doesn't get in fights with them. I think she sees them as beneath her because she can see that they are naive and maybe a little foolish, as most teenagers are, as she should be.What should I do if anything? I want her to not view her peers the way she does and make friends.TL;DR: 16 year old daughter has the mentality of a 30 year old. She doesn't have anything in common with other kids and is condescending towards them. via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2bE5VIV
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