My son is 3.5 years old, still in diapers. I know the whole potty training help has been covered time & time again here but I don't feel like any of the advice given to other people has helped.My son is a great kid. We've been very fortunate in that he was a very relaxed predictable baby: slept 6-8 hrs through night starting at a month old, follows directions without much pushback, is very polite (yes, please...no, thank you...etc.), occasional tantrum but nothing major behaviorally. Around a year & a half old he had about 9 months of speech therapy but has since been fine developmentally...except potty training we just have not made progress on.I was a stay at home mom with him for his first year & a half but after some circumstances with my husbands job, roles switched & I started working full time and my husband has since been home with him. When my son was a baby he was on a routine that I got him in (10 pm bed time, 9 am wake up, two naps at approx that same time each day) but once my husband was at home with him his routine has I guess you'd say fallen apart. My husband is a pleaser & let my son run the show and took cues from my son instead of leading my son. So for awhile (1.5-2.5 yrs) my son was snacking when he got really hungry instead of my husband saying "ok it's breakfast/lunch". My husbands family is also very fly by the seat of their pants where I am more of a routine type person. (If any of that is relevant)Around a year ago I attempted to start potty training and helping guide my husband as well to help during the day. My husband put in minimal effort while I was at work so it was frustrating to come home and he was still in diapers & no attempt at going potty was made. My husband's excuse was he just didn't know how to approach & needed my guidance. I tried to demonstrate & teach my husband how to teach my son. Around last December I found out I was pregnant & was very sick and continued to be during my pregnancy so our efforts dwindled a bit.I have just had our second son about a month ago & am home for another 5 weeks so I want to attempt to get him potty trained before I go back to work and do the "hard part" so my husband can just reinforce behaviors.My son is a fast learner & he KNOWS when he goes potty. He will tell us that he needs a diaper change or that he is going to go poop if he leaves the room. But if we tell him to go on the potty or ask him if he has to go we get a resounding "NO!"He has a potty seat, & my mom recently sent us a attach to the wall urinal with an aiming target to see if he will take to that. He has asked occasionally to go the restroom and in the past year has gone when asked about 3-4 times. Recently he has taken to going pee in the bathtub when getting a bath. We've put him on the potty immediately while running his bath and he'll push like he's trying really hard & say there's "no pee". Then we'll put him in the tub and he'll say "look! It's coming!" And before he even sits down will pee in the water.I've tried setting a timer and taking him to the potty every fifteen minutes but it seems that the last time in an hour between the last fifteen minutes he'll go in his pull up. We've tried letting him go without anything but a short but he held it for three hours (not good) and while falling asleep for his nap, put on a pull up and he immediately peed in it. He's asked for underwear (Cars and Thomas) which we thought was promising and made a big deal about buying it for him. I put him in a pair and told him to tell me, took him every fifteen minutes and within a half hour he was sitting on the couch & said "oh no I'm wet".I don't know what to do at this point. We've tried a reward for every time but he's not really into candy enough, and he loses interest after one or two pieces.Not sure how to proceed at this point, I feel like he is just being lazy now. Help?! via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2bOSxyK
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