Throwaway for obvious reasons. I also need to be a bit obtuse because the situation attracted a lot of media attention (which I missed, evidently)My ex-wife has very limited parenting time with my kiddos. They are 14 and 15 year old boys and they generally only visit her once a week for dinner.Last year, we had some concerns because her boyfriend at the time seemed to have an opiate addiction and my ex and the boyfriend would argue a lot in front of the kids. The situation resolved itself when he broke her backdoor done and beat her and was arrested. He kept violating the restraining order and ended up doing about 6+ months of actual time in prison.Last fall, my ex-wife started dating a new guy. They've been dating since and things seemed pretty serious. We've met briefly a few times and he seemed like a reasonably decent person. The kids like him, never report that my ex and current bf have any fights or arguments in front of them, etc. All was going well until last night when I did a little google stalking. Previously, this guy was an Internet ghost, basically, no one had any record of other than shady sites that sell personal info.I was shocked when I put his name into Google and I found out he was arrested for FELONY SEX ASSAULT (and some other things), was held on bond over $500,000. Who did he assault? No idea, but it wasn't my ex. I know this for certain because he did an on-air interview about the incident, to "explain his side" and my-ex was sitting on the side of the room during the interview. According to reports, he was involved in a casual sex encounter involving at least 3 people. One of the other participants was also arrested on similar charges.Three days after their arrest, both were released and all charges were dropped. Shortly thereafter, he went on to resign from his position as a police officer. He also faced several other disciplinary actions in his time as an officer - averaging over 1 per year. At the very least, he seems to be a hot-headed, risk-taking individual. At the worst, he got away with felony sex assault.I don't care about what my ex does or what kind of partners she picks, except for the impact it has on the relationship she has with my kids, and their safety while in her presence. My concern now is that I seriously question the safety of letting me kids be around this guy.I don't think this guy is going to be leaving her life anytime soon. I have a number of ideas on how to proceed, ranging from "don't worry about it" to "hire a lawyer and file for an emergency hearing to revoke her parenting time."So, what would you do, if you were in my situation? via /r/Parenting http://ift.tt/2bQ1dGo
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