Update: College kid constantly texting, Facetiming, and contacting us.

https://ift.tt/2OmM5C3 posted about a week ago about my son. He had recently left our home in Washington to attend his dream school in California. He was loving it but was constantly contacting us to a degree that was a little extreme. I took the advice in the thread and discussed it with him.Turns out he is pretty happy where he is. He found a great group of likeminded friends. They get together to study for class. For fun they go check out a movie or play a game of twister. He refers to them as "fun wholesome nerds" which is totally his style. He isnt depressed like some people thought. He isn't lonely either.The problem is what a lot of people suggested. He just misses being involved in everyday family life. He's always been super independent but very connected. I posted in the thread but a typical weekend morning routine involved him making us breakfast and crawling into our bed before heading out with friends for the day. We had family dinners and I would tuck him into bed. He turned down events to go to his brothers games even though he hates sports. He would always check in with his siblings about their days and they would go on sibling outings regularly. He is missing all of that right now and is upset that his siblings still get to have that and he doesn't. We discussed how he is still a member of this family and in a couple of years his siblings (twin high school juniors) will be out of the house as well. They'll have to work harder to get together and stay connected but that doesn't mean texting them when they are asleep because you just finished studying and you're bored. We talked about how quality is sometimes better than quality.He seemed better after we talked. We told him to still text and call but maybe not as often as he's doing. We told him to make sure he's having fun. He said he is and he likes college so far. I'm confident that this will tapper off over time and I'll be wondering what I was so worried about. I'm glad he's close with his siblings. When they would fight as little kids I wished that they would just get along. Now they are so incredibly close. All in all it isn't as bad as it could be. Though he did send me a text as I was writing this update lol. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2MBxAIQ