One of the conditions for giving my daughter a phone was that me and my wife would check it every once in a while to make sure she wasn't getting into trouble with it (using it during school hours, when she's asleep, bullying, taking inappropriate pics, etc). She knows we check her phone.So when she got a WhatsApp message that was a little kissy face at night when she was asleep it wasn't really a big breach of privacy when I checked what it was about(or so I tell myself at least). A boy in her class sending her a little "I can't wait to see you tomorrow" text, which made me scroll further and see some definite boyfriend/girlfriend back and forth, including an attempted (and failed) meet up to try to make out.I'm not that worried about it. This is what kids do, I remember I did it before the age of 10. It's actually kind of cute and I'd rather just let it be, give her a generic talk about responsibility, about how to keep her wits about and make sure that whatever happens in a relationship (even among 10 year olds) must be consensual and not do anything she's not comfortable with, and if there's trouble I got her back, now and in the future. It'll be awkward but I think she's clever enough to make up for her naivete.The bigger problem I think I/we have is my wife. My wife comes from a way more conservative background when it comes to these things and if she hears anything about making out, it means my daughter not seeing the other kid ever again, and probably some sort of punishment for her as well. I'm totally lost on how to handle this since I figured (hoped) this moment wouldn't come until a couple years from now.I don't know how to bring it up with either of them, but I know it'll be much harder to placate my wife than to inform my daughter. I don't know where to start, and what I can do to prevent my wife from being weird and hostile about this. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2xnoZEO
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