My 13 year old caught me smoking pot. I’m not sure how to approach her about it.

Throw away. I imagine this won’t be a popular subject but it is what it is.My 13 year old daughter found me on the front porch at 1 am this past Saturday, smoking a joint. For those who want to judge, I consider myself a good mother. I have a great job that pays well. Nice, well taken care of home and my kids are well behaved, great kids. I also happen to love weed. I have severe anxiety disorder and it helps significantly, aside from the fact that I’d much rather get high than drink alcohol any day. Until Recently my secret has been well hidden. I live in a medical state but it’s also a red state so the anti-marijuana propaganda is strong here. My question is, how do I explain this to my child? The biggest issue is the fact that I’m doing something illegal despite all of my lectures about staying away from dangerous drugs and alcohol. In the past I have presented MJ as a helpful drug, like Tylenol or ibuprofen but that it can still be abused. Ive also expressed that it can adversely effect the developing mind so the rules change by age. I guess my difficulty here is, how do I present it to her that it’s okay but also not okay. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2NmuMEL