I need some advice

I’ve never posted anything like this before but I’m not sure where else to turn. I am a recent divorced and single mom of a rambunctious 6 year old girl. She is wild and fiercely independent, smart and hilarious and very sweet. However, this combination at times can be exhausting. I want to be this parent that can keep up with the constant questions and the the quips but most of the time in just drives me crazy. She can be insolent and disrespectful because of her independence and all it does is make me snap and yell. I don’t want her memories of me to be this stern, bitch mom that didn’t let her do anything but when I’m not getting onto her she’s getting into everything. I know that she’s just being a kid but anytime I try to just have a discussion with her it doesn’t seem to sink in. I feel like it takes me being upset to get her to do anything. I don’t know what to do. I feel like a shit parent all the time and I only have her every other week. Her dad says she doesn’t act like this for him and they are constantly doing fun things together and seem so happy. It makes me wonder if she had to pick, would she pick him. I even wonder if that would be better for her. Any advice on how to handle the situation? Either psychologicallyor on how to get my child to listen to me without me having to be stern or an asshole. via /r/Parenting https://ift.tt/2Dkjz2P